As a 5 year survivor of late stage Ovarian Cancer I am often approached by family members of people recently diagnosed with a deadly cancer. I've been searching for an image of how it feels to be diagnosed with a deadly disease, and the best I can come up with is a barbell. I was … Continue reading The Weight Of Cancer
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What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones
If you were to ask anyone who knows me what my super power is, they would all say the same thing: Losing My Cellphone. If this was a sport I'd be captain, and handily lead my team to victory. I lose my phone at least once a day. When people ask me what I … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones
What I Meant to Do – January 1
I've begun this year obsessed with clearing out the clutter in my home. I have a 4 story townhouse which I purchased thinking I would rent out the loft - a large bedroom with it's own bathroom, spectacular light and a pretty view. When I first moved in I let my 16 year old move … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – January 1
Capitalism, Cancer and Outrage
This morning my FaceBook feed alerted me to Sephora's new program, designed to benefit cancer patients. During a 6 minute video they show bald, scared, suffering women, getting makeup and skin care tips, then walking through the store being shown products by a Sephora employee. Credits roll. Women rejoice. Wait....... Right after my 1st round … Continue reading Capitalism, Cancer and Outrage
What I Meant to Do…..
In the weeks leading up to Christmas I told my children I was making cheese steak egg rolls & other picky foods for Christmas dinner. They loved the idea. They were especially excited for the cheese steak egg rolls, and they talked about it every time we saw each other in the weeks leading … Continue reading What I Meant to Do…..
Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter
My brother and his wife adopted a 2 year old girl from Russia 16 years ago. She has been both a joy and a nightmare, often within a single day. Currently she is leaning towards nightmare, and my brother and his wife spend every day afraid for her. I spent time with them all yesterday and … Continue reading Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter
Triggers, Dissociation and Grounding
This link landed in my mailbox, and I think it is a great source as we head into the holiday weekend. Happy Reading and have a great weekend! https://mailchi.mp/36a88487e26f/we-need-to-talk-about-triggers-emotional-flashbacks-dissociation?e=d8e3e8aaee
I Saw My Father Cry
My father is a stern man. As a child I feared him. On the few occasions I felt softness from him, I was too startled to embrace the moment. I'd never seen my father cry. He didn't cry when he buried his parents and two of his sisters, he didn't cry at any of our … Continue reading I Saw My Father Cry
Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
What is the Truth? I've been trying for 3 days to write a blog about Oprah's Golden Globe speech without referencing my ex narc. Alas, it is not meant to be. I am compelled to write about the intersection of my ex narc and Oprah. Quick background - my ex left his 1st wife … Continue reading Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
Life After the Narcissist
I dreamed of a family and wall to wall carpeting as a child. Wall to wall carpeting was relatively new, and many of my friends had it. We had oriental rugs and hard wood, and our house was cold. My friends had families that loved each other. They looked forward to seeing each other, they … Continue reading Life After the Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 