I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
I've had a really hard day/week, so forgive me if this is scattered. Imagine this: You are drowning. It is obvious you are drowning. Everyone knows this. Someone offers to throw you a buoy. You accept. You say "go ahead - throw me the red buoy" They say "wait - what size buoy? why the … Continue reading Will You Help Me?
I made it through Easter with a smile and grace on the outside. On the inside, I can barely breathe. While I've said this to no one, I honestly don't know how much more I can handle. I feel like I dug a huge pit in the sand and voluntarily jumped in. I then … Continue reading Panic
After 2 1/2 years of this divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain. After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath. I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
Lately I've been obsessed with family tv shows. Inevitably, the mom has some nugget of wisdom that carries her children through their life. When times are bad they think of her words and are comforted. I can remember two of my mom's nuggets. The 1st was "when you meet someone new, remember they are as … Continue reading Bummed Out Mom
If I was gone, people would notice, a funeral well attended Tears would be shed, regrets told in earnest a house would be sold, possessions disposed of not that it matters, no possession defines me My family would gather, tell stories of my life some would be lovely, others recalled to clarify I was a … Continue reading If I Was Gone
I have a friend who is taking on our school district. 15 months ago she found out a teacher was snap chatting her 17 year old son. On weekends, at night time, during school hours there are snap chats, usually numbering in the teens. If you are unfamiliar with snap chat, it is an app … Continue reading Teachers + Social Media
My youngest graduated 8th grade today. I had the perfect seat in the packed auditorium. It gave me ample opportunity to watch him and get great pics as he received his diploma. Until.......1/2 way through, they switched the direction the kids were walking. I got an awesome pic of his back. I came home to … Continue reading The Wrong Choice: My Specialty
It's ironic that I have a Master's degree in Psychology but had no real idea what the buzzwords actually meant. Words like emotional abuse, projection, dissociation, and denial, all so relevant to the therapeutic process, were only concepts; ideas I could define but not really relate to. It's a good thing I decided not to … Continue reading What’s Left of Me?
I kicked out my middle son today. Actually, I gave him several months to work things out, to start helping himself and to stop treating me like shit. When nothing changed, I gave him a month's notice to go. I should be wracked with guilt, but I'm not. I'm relieved. I know it's possible I'll … Continue reading The Covert Narc’s Son