Alimony & The Narcissist

I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband.   I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce".    They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist

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Will You Help Me?

I've had a really hard day/week, so forgive me if this is scattered. Imagine this: You are drowning.  It is obvious you are drowning.  Everyone knows this. Someone offers to throw you a buoy.  You accept. You say "go ahead - throw me the red buoy" They say "wait - what size buoy?  why the … Continue reading Will You Help Me?

Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts

After 2 1/2 years of this  divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain.   After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath.  I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts

The Wrong Choice: My Specialty

My youngest graduated 8th grade today.  I had the perfect seat in the packed auditorium.  It gave me ample opportunity to watch him and get great pics as he received his diploma.  Until.......1/2 way through, they switched the direction the kids were walking.  I got an awesome pic of his back.  I came home to … Continue reading The Wrong Choice: My Specialty

What’s Left of Me?

It's ironic that I have a Master's degree in Psychology but had no real idea what the buzzwords actually meant.  Words like emotional abuse, projection, dissociation, and denial, all so relevant to the therapeutic process, were only concepts; ideas I could define but not really relate to.  It's a good thing I decided not to … Continue reading What’s Left of Me?