The Covert Narc’s Son

I kicked out my middle son today.  Actually, I gave him several months to work things out, to start helping himself and to stop treating me like shit.  When nothing changed, I gave him a month's notice to go.  I should be wracked with guilt, but I'm not.  I'm relieved.  I know it's possible I'll … Continue reading The Covert Narc’s Son

Healing a Bankrupted Soul

I've read so many articles stating that if you are divorcing a narcissist, just cut your losses and walk away.  Every single author says the same thing:  you are fighting a losing battle, you will never win, and you will walk away financially bankrupt if you try to fight him.  I agree with all of … Continue reading Healing a Bankrupted Soul

The Magic of the Covert Narcissist

It's like magic, what the covert narcissist (CN) does to your head.  Today is a great example of how it works.  I started my day feeling pretty good.  I felt strong, capable, not bad looking for my age, and, believe it or not, Happy.   I went to yoga and saw people who I feel … Continue reading The Magic of the Covert Narcissist

To Blog or Not To Blog

I can't decide if I want this blog to be successful or not.  In fact, the day I had the most reads, I went into a panic.  What if my ex reads this?  What if my kids read this?  What if my parents read this?   What will they think?  What will they say?  How … Continue reading To Blog or Not To Blog

Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism

I have 23 years of a relationship with a covert narcissist (CN) to dissect, and the question I keep asking my therapist is "are you sure?"  How can you be sure he really is a CN, and I'm not just re-writing our story?  What proof do you have that I didn't deserve to be treated … Continue reading Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism