My mother always says that I make friends where ever I go, and this is true. I have no trouble meeting new people, and I can become fast friends with some. In fact, I become such close friends with some that I do what I call “vomiting invitations”. I have been known to invite virtual … Continue reading Vomitus Invitationus
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What Did You Say?
My youngest son is studying Spanish, and complaining about it every step of the way. I don’t blame him. I think some people are hard wired to learn a second language and others not. He & I are in the not category. Helping him learn Spanish though, has led me to ponder English. I’ve heard … Continue reading What Did You Say?
Where Does all the Anger Go?
I am So, So Mad. I'm mad at my ex for reeling me in, taking me down, then leaving me. I'm mad at the stupid women who engaged my ex in his narcissistic need for constant esteem boosts, believing it was my fault our marriage sucked. I'm so mad at myself for believing it was … Continue reading Where Does all the Anger Go?
Saying Goodbye To My Inner Julie
I spend a lot of time wondering how I missed it. How did I miss that the man I married didn’t love me, I wasn’t his soul mate, he didn’t like all of the same things I liked. He chose me for what I brought to the table. I was chosen to be a Nanny, … Continue reading Saying Goodbye To My Inner Julie
The Meaning Of Brave
One of my pet peeves of cancer, and a pet peeve of many cancer patients I know, is suddenly being told we are“brave”, “courageous’, a “fighter” and even a “role model”. Most other cancer patients I speak with despise these sentiments. It’s not like I Chose Cancer. I didn’t sidled up to the take out … Continue reading The Meaning Of Brave
When Therapy Fails It’s Time to Bail
Lest I sound cavalier I’ll state for the record – I Never Wanted A Divorce. I wanted a healthy, happy, supportive, productive marriage. I got none of these. After a year and ½ of separation, even though we are no closer to divorce then we were a year ago, I have become an advocate of … Continue reading When Therapy Fails It’s Time to Bail
Stop With The Platitudes
Individuals in my situation, cancer “survivors”, or those going through divorce, are bombarded with Platitudes. These statements are uncomfortable at best, hurtful at worst. The reason for this is that a platitude “is a statement, especially one with a moral content, that has been used too often to be interesting or thoughtful” (dictionary.com) . In … Continue reading Stop With The Platitudes
A Gift From Yoga
Yoga gave me a broken pinky finger, and it was the highlight of my summer! The break has prevented me from writing, cleaning & cooking. It has brought me pain, splints, a hand brace and physical therapy. It has created discomfort on my mat, in my life, in bed even. It has slowed my … Continue reading A Gift From Yoga
Silver Linings of Cancer – Gratitude
It's hard to find the good in cancer, yet it is there. While still in treatment I found it imperative to focus on the good, since treatment is pretty damn bad. Here's what I came up with. My top 10 silver linings 10. No more bad hair days. And, no need to shave! 9. … Continue reading Silver Linings of Cancer – Gratitude
Mind or Body? Connection in Yoga
Having already divulged my age I feel comfortable revealing that I was in college & graduate school in the early 1980’s, studying psychology. I think it was the Star Wars movies, with the introduction of “The Force”, the knowledge that we only use 10% of our brain, and the plethora of studies using biofeedback, that … Continue reading Mind or Body? Connection in Yoga
Groomed but Escaped 