How easy it is to forget how bad things were once we're on our way to recovery. I did just that - forgot that while I've come to love my mother, she will never be an empathetic person. It happened this weekend. My brother has not spoken to either parent for over 3 years … Continue reading The Narcissistic Mother
Jack Nicholson Face
Forget Resting Bitch Face (RBF) - I have Jack Nicholson Face (JNF) I showed up at work this morning with my JNF. The owner, i.e. my Employer/Boss, sent an email yesterday requesting we begin a new project. A great project. A valid, very necessary project. Except the people she planned to pull to complete the … Continue reading Jack Nicholson Face
Competitive Yoga, the Soul & Donuts
I am a competitive person. I inherited this from my father. Lest he deny this, I'll remind him of balloon volleyball. I had just moved into a new home with my 3 boys, all under the age of 10. The home had a huge room with concrete floors, a few windows and nothing else. My … Continue reading Competitive Yoga, the Soul & Donuts
Things I want to say today It's been a shit day. After a shit night. After another shit day. Here are some apologies, requests, and questions for the world. Mailwoman: I am sorry you can't get to my mailbox. My bad - not yours! I pray you don't stress about the fact that you couldn't … Continue reading Really??
Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
How To Survive Divorcing a Narcissistic Asshole In the Order You'll Face Them (I say guy, could be girl) If you are like me, you are heading in to a divorce with someone you suspect is a Bad Guy, perhaps a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you: If you suspect it, it is true. … Continue reading Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
Listening with My Heart
My family has fractured because of this election. Half of the family is on one side, half on the other, and there are people no longer speaking to each other. I'm afraid that if someone dies we'll have to have Trump - Anti-Trump sides in the church, with Ushers asking which side we belong to. … Continue reading Listening with My Heart
Disabled or Faker?
Many people are on disability for a clearly apparent reason. It is obvious, when you see them get out of their car in the handicap spot that they are disabled. Many others though, don't appear to be disabled. That is my category - the disabled ghost. It is embarrassing and frustrating to repeatedly hear "you … Continue reading Disabled or Faker?
Empathy for Teenagers
I've been spending time with my niece & my son, both of whom are teenagers. We are staying next door to my parents, and any time they act teenagerish my parents say something like "I can't wait until you have your own teenagers! you'll see then". To be clear, I am not picking on … Continue reading Empathy for Teenagers
To Blog or Not To Blog
I can't decide if I want this blog to be successful or not. In fact, the day I had the most reads, I went into a panic. What if my ex reads this? What if my kids read this? What if my parents read this? What will they think? What will they say? How … Continue reading To Blog or Not To Blog
Are You Saying It’s My Fault?
One of the major issues I had raising children with my narc was his inability to look at himself critically. As the Chosen One of a Narc, I am excessively good at looking at myself critically. Ask me, at any random point in any random day, and I will come up with 20 Major Flaws … Continue reading Are You Saying It’s My Fault?