If you'd like to watch how life with a narcissists goes, watch the movie Mother! It is difficult to watch because it is so crazy, but it a great representation of how, and why, someone can be trapped by a narcissist. Happy Labor Day weekend!
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Sweaty McSweaterson
I don't often answer my phone. When it rings, I look at it. If it's a caller I don't know, I hit silence and go about my business. If it is someone I do know I make a conscious choice to talk or ignore them. At times during my divorce proceedings, my lawyer was among … Continue reading Sweaty McSweaterson
The Art of Diminishment
I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment. It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations. I came up with creative design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment
Anxiety & Narcissistic Abuse
Anxiety has followed me all of my life. In recent years I've managed to temper it's impact. In new situations, like my recent travel to Sri Lanka, I can leave anxiety at home. Oddly, it still haunts me in some ordinary, day to day circumstances. I assume the association between many normal life events and … Continue reading Anxiety & Narcissistic Abuse
Wake Up Call
For a variety of reasons I've been working a lot the past two weeks. I should quantify this: a lot for me. I love working. I love projects, being around people, feeling productive, not laying in bed. Despite the fact that I know better, I still volunteer for much more than I can handle physically. … Continue reading Wake Up Call
How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years. Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band. In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job. A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
Who Must Bridge The Divide?
How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents. After spending the past year, hell - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it. I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?
Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Recovering from Narcissist abuse is a long term endeavor. I have developed a step program (will share later) and I still revisit some of the earlier steps. I often have to reassure myself that I am not imaging my abuse. I've been pondering lately why this is. What is it about the narcissist abuse … Continue reading Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Another Win for the Narcissist
My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year. As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying. A substantial increase. In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house. All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist
Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
After 2 1/2 years of this divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain. After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath. I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
Groomed but Escaped 