Revenge

It took about 1 year for me to realize I had been married to, and was now divorcing, a covert narcissist.  Memories flooded back.  I had a hard time figuring out where to put the feelings, heartbreak and regret; hence this blog.  At one point I wrote The Tractor.  It was partially autobiographical but mostly … Continue reading Revenge

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Rage

(see update at bottom)   I grew up with people subject to rage, and then married a man who did the same thing.  Here's the thing about rage: it's all about control.  Rage is not an expression of anger, it is a show put on by a disordered person, designed to flip the script; to … Continue reading Rage

Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist

I have a good friend with whom I share many of my inner most thoughts, pretty or not.  One of these thoughts was the idea that I wanted to "win" my divorce.  I've decided (hopefully) that this is a very human, not at all unusual thought, especially among those who have been abused. It was … Continue reading Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist

Long Term Impact of Narcissist

I had a very difficult winter.  If you read my blog regularly you might have noticed I stopped writing.  I was struggling with a lingering virus (remember-if you are the victim of a narcissist your health is compromised), but that was not the whole story. I am increasingly aware of the long term impact of … Continue reading Long Term Impact of Narcissist

Be Proactive with Narcissist

I was advised, early in my divorce, to take control of the process.  Close accounts, force issues, freeze assets, etc.  I didn't, because I was conditioned to not threaten my narcissist.  I had been taught to think that revenge would be horrible.  I say conditioned because in retrospect, I can count on 1 hand the … Continue reading Be Proactive with Narcissist