When my spouse 1st left me and gave me his proposal for support and division of property, I was horrified. It was so clear that his intent was to walk away and wash his hands of responsibility for me and his children. It was such a horrible offer, I didn't even consider it. How stupid … Continue reading What Was I Thinking?
Wake Up Gurl!
Do I Owe You?
I have a plethora of family and friends who have been stepping up to help me over the past 3 years. I am grateful, but nervous. In my world, when someone helps you, you owe them. Some of the people who have stepped up, when I've expressed concern that I can never pay them back, … Continue reading Do I Owe You?
Empathy for Teenagers
I've been spending time with my niece & my son, both of whom are teenagers. We are staying next door to my parents, and any time they act teenagerish my parents say something like "I can't wait until you have your own teenagers! you'll see then". To be clear, I am not picking on … Continue reading Empathy for Teenagers
Are We Our Stuff?
I've spent the last 2 years selling, giving away and trashing most of my "stuff", and it feels great! I love how empty my house looks, I love the freedom I have now that I don't have to take care of so many things, and I love feeling unencumbered. I am still very tied down, … Continue reading Are We Our Stuff?
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
If I Was Gone
If I was gone, people would notice, a funeral well attended Tears would be shed, regrets told in earnest a house would be sold, possessions disposed of not that it matters, no possession defines me My family would gather, tell stories of my life some would be lovely, others recalled to clarify I was a … Continue reading If I Was Gone
Love Wins
My son and I spent yesterday on Capital Hill, advocating for ovarian cancer awareness and funding. It was amazing on so many levels. To begin, I met many of the women I share with on FB. FB has a page for those with ovarian cancer, and I have to say, we are the nicest group … Continue reading Love Wins
My Stupid Inner Critic
At therapy this week my therapist said "we have to get rid of that inner critic, always putting you down" and the 1st thought that popped into my head was "I know. I'm so stupid for doing that". What a predicament! How can I get rid of the voice that constantly criticizes me, when I'm … Continue reading My Stupid Inner Critic
How To Call Dibs on a Parking Spot
Apparently, this is confusing to some people. Some seem to believe it is done with their middle finger, not their turn signal. This is Wrong. Which leads me to further evidence of my recovery. Yesterday I was in a parking lot and I spied a spot, so I headed over to it. As I approached … Continue reading How To Call Dibs on a Parking Spot
Personality Traits: Both Good & Bad
The Real Me - I've been trying to figure out who I am. I was the bad seed in my family; the one who didn't quite fit but gave others a great laugh (not with, but at). I've worked hard all of my life to not be who I am, and now that I'd … Continue reading Personality Traits: Both Good & Bad
Groomed but Escaped 