Odd that it is watching, and enjoying, the SuperBowl that has brought me clarity around the concept of the roles we are assigned, and accept. In my family of origin I was given the role of quiet, perfect Murphy, not the brightest, but certainly the sweetest of the bunch. Through that lens I came to … Continue reading Rewriting My Script
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Acting, Lies & the Narcissist
My youngest son drove me to a Dr's appointment tonight. It's often illuminating spending time with captive children, and tonight did not disappoint. My son has recently started working as a cashier in the market down the street from our home. While waiting for my prescription, he launched into a tirade about how much … Continue reading Acting, Lies & the Narcissist
Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
I think that climbing Mt. Everest is comparable to recovering from narcissistic abuse. For example: Mt Everest - requires Sherpas Narcissistic abuse recovery (NAR)requires therapists, body workers, spiritual leaders & more Mt Everest requires attention to your body, before, during and after. NAR requires attention to your body before, during and after. Mt Everest … Continue reading Mt Everest & Recovery from Narcissistic Abuse
I Saw My Father Cry
My father is a stern man. As a child I feared him. On the few occasions I felt softness from him, I was too startled to embrace the moment. I'd never seen my father cry. He didn't cry when he buried his parents and two of his sisters, he didn't cry at any of our … Continue reading I Saw My Father Cry
Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse
As I enter my fourth year of recovery from narcissistic abuse, I find myself exhausted and bitter because of the layers of damage I have to peel away. I thought I was in a really good place because I'd been feeling really good about myself. One nagging issue though, had me wondering how well I … Continue reading Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse
Life After the Narcissist
I dreamed of a family and wall to wall carpeting as a child. Wall to wall carpeting was relatively new, and many of my friends had it. We had oriental rugs and hard wood, and our house was cold. My friends had families that loved each other. They looked forward to seeing each other, they … Continue reading Life After the Narcissist
The Crowd Cried
Yes, this is what happened at my ex's wedding last night. According to my son. My son left as soon as the "wedding" was over, because he felt ridiculous watching all these people cry. I haven't got the courage to ask him who was crying, because so many of my ex family in law was … Continue reading The Crowd Cried
Diverting the Narcissist
Standing in Uncomfortability Apparently uncomfortability is not a word. It is, however, one used often in my work environment. It is also a situation I found myself in Monday morning. For over an hour. Let me start by saying I know I'm outdated, but I Do Not Understand why certain words are used … Continue reading Diverting the Narcissist
Narcissists, Stress & Health
After the first few years of chronic illnesses my family started to say to me "do you think it's stress?". I was flummoxed as to how to answer. Of course it was stress. I was a mother of 3 young children, I co-owned a restaurant with my spouse, he was never at home, and when … Continue reading Narcissists, Stress & Health
Last week I found myself in an uncomfortable situation.........in Sri Lanka. I live on the east coast of the USA - Sri Lanka is 8 time zones away. I was aware by Sunday afternoon that I was not going to be happy at the retreat I was on, yet I was to be there for … Continue reading
Groomed but Escaped 