While in Mexico I fell in love with the statues and mannequins that represent Dia De Los Muertos. My children were aghast when I said I wanted a full size mannequin for my dining room. "Mom, that's morbid" they exclaimed. When I looked at these mannequins though, I saw nothing morbid about them. In fact, … Continue reading De Dia De Los Muertos
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Parents Say the Darnedest Things
Parenthood brings many surprises. In addition to the fact that you can go days at a time without sleep and those D cup boobs aren't as fun as you thought they'd be, you find yourself engaged in activities you never knew existed. Between my 3 biological sons and 1 stepson, I've spent time marveling (& … Continue reading Parents Say the Darnedest Things
Tuesday Tickles
Sometimes life is just too heavy. My past weekend was just that. I tried to write about it yesterday, with no luck. So, just for fun, I thought some of you might need a laugh as much as I do. Welcome to Missing Missy. https://www.wired.com/images_blogs/magazine/2011/04/MissingMissy.pdf
Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter
My brother and his wife adopted a 2 year old girl from Russia 16 years ago. She has been both a joy and a nightmare, often within a single day. Currently she is leaning towards nightmare, and my brother and his wife spend every day afraid for her. I spent time with them all yesterday and … Continue reading Love & Kindness – All That Really Matter
Impenetrable Boundaries
Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist. This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were. I know - seems mighty innocuous, right? … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries
Bloom Like an Orchid
Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse A friend gave me this orchid last September. She told me Orchids require sun, so I put it on a shelf by my front door that gets light. Then I waited. And waited. And waited. A few months later, two leaves were cracked, one with what appeared to be a … Continue reading Bloom Like an Orchid
Let It Be
What Charlotte Taught Me Meet Charlotte. She's the one with 3 legs. I'm the one with 2 legs. While I might be the one writing this blog, I am only repeating what Charlotte taught me. It might be useful to anyone going through any type of trauma, whether it be an illness, divorce, abuse, a … Continue reading Let It Be
Live Like You Deserve To
I have spent a lifetime being told I have a great imagination. Actually, great is not usually the word that is used. I usually hear "vivid" or "active". When these words are used it is meant to convey the fact that I am wrong. I am mis-remembering, making things up, foolish or childish. As I write … Continue reading Live Like You Deserve To
Triggers, Dissociation and Grounding
This link landed in my mailbox, and I think it is a great source as we head into the holiday weekend. Happy Reading and have a great weekend! https://mailchi.mp/36a88487e26f/we-need-to-talk-about-triggers-emotional-flashbacks-dissociation?e=d8e3e8aaee
Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist
I am prejudiced. 100% prejudiced. I am prejudiced against people with disabilities. Which makes it mighty tough to be a person with disabilities! I was raised to believe that you must be doing something constructive each waking hour. Work/school were not to be missed, even if you were deathly ill. "Leisure time" was used to … Continue reading Disability, Prejudice & the Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 