Triggers

  Triggers are unique to each individual, everyone has them, and they sometimes come out of the blue.  I learned this the hard way this week.  My work environment has been understaffed and, towards the end of the summer, we finally brought on board 3 new staff members. Honestly, I was disappointed when I met … Continue reading Triggers

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Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0

  I wrote Sex & the Covert Narc four years ago, and it continues to be my most often read entry.  I decided it was time to update my thoughts in regards to sex. If you read my 1st blog you know that sex was one of the triggers my ex used.  When I was … Continue reading Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0

The Permanence Of Heartbreak

(background info- my brothers beach house is next door to my mothers, and there is constant competition about who is staying with her, and she gets pretty crazy when I stay with my brother, which I do most often because, well...she's sort of crazy)   Five years later there are still times I  can't breathe.  … Continue reading The Permanence Of Heartbreak

Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

  Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from.  But what about the people in your life you can't escape? Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel

  If you are connected to a narcissist, you probably wrestle with your shadow self.  Some aspects of our shadow self are survival instincts no longer necessary to survive.  The most toxic parts of our shadow self though come from parents.  If you were raised by a narcissist or other disordered person, you have been  … Continue reading Shadow Self-Narcissist Fuel

Long Term Impact of Narcissist

I had a very difficult winter.  If you read my blog regularly you might have noticed I stopped writing.  I was struggling with a lingering virus (remember-if you are the victim of a narcissist your health is compromised), but that was not the whole story. I am increasingly aware of the long term impact of … Continue reading Long Term Impact of Narcissist

Be Proactive with Narcissist

I was advised, early in my divorce, to take control of the process.  Close accounts, force issues, freeze assets, etc.  I didn't, because I was conditioned to not threaten my narcissist.  I had been taught to think that revenge would be horrible.  I say conditioned because in retrospect, I can count on 1 hand the … Continue reading Be Proactive with Narcissist