Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables! During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate". Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you. All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
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The Crowd Cried
Yes, this is what happened at my ex's wedding last night. According to my son. My son left as soon as the "wedding" was over, because he felt ridiculous watching all these people cry. I haven't got the courage to ask him who was crying, because so many of my ex family in law was … Continue reading The Crowd Cried
Parenting with a Narcissist. Hahahaha!
Yes, I'm laughing. Every once in a while I forget who I'm "parenting" with. In those moments, I waste my time sending him emails regarding the issues I'm dealing with. Most of the time I'm aware, as I'm writing, that he will not assist. Sometimes though, I slip and think maybe.....maybe this time he'll help … Continue reading Parenting with a Narcissist. Hahahaha!
How Narcissists’ Damage Children
My boss, the one who recently lost her son, was upset yesterday. She told me she didn't know how she was going to handle the upcoming weekend. Her son is a senior in college, and this weekend is Senior Night at the football game. She wasn't too concerned initially, because in high school parents escorted … Continue reading How Narcissists’ Damage Children
Actions Speak Louder than Words
My oldest son is 25. I mention this because he is now the age that represents the amount of time I was with his father. He spent copious amounts of time as a child with his dad, traveling around playing baseball. For him this meant time with his dad, which has influenced his thought process. … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder than Words
Narcissists Seal The Deal
I had lunch with my eldest son yesterday. It turned out to be serendipitous that I asked him to meet me for lunch, because he had something to share with me. His dad, my ex, is having a big party tonight where he intends to propose marriage to his paramour. My son was very nervous … Continue reading Narcissists Seal The Deal
Wake Up Call
For a variety of reasons I've been working a lot the past two weeks. I should quantify this: a lot for me. I love working. I love projects, being around people, feeling productive, not laying in bed. Despite the fact that I know better, I still volunteer for much more than I can handle physically. … Continue reading Wake Up Call
Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People
Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people. I thought I had it down with my ex, but I did not. I wasn't going gray, I was simply avoiding him. Since we live in the same community, and share numerous friends and associates, avoiding him is … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People
How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years. Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band. In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job. A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
When I went to settlement, unloading the "home" I'd owned with my ex- narcissist, I found out that I was being held solely responsible for all outstanding fees, interest, and penalties on our mortgage. Having been put through the wringer by Bank of America I was pissed off. I wrote my lawyer explaining everything BoA … Continue reading Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
Groomed but Escaped 