Love Bombing

Dirty John While I've accepted that I was love bombed by a covert narcissist, I still struggle with how it happened.  In retrospect, everything was so clear.  His actions did not match his words, he lied to everyone around him in order to see me, he went through jobs like others go through socks and … Continue reading Love Bombing

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Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

Those taking on the challenge of climbing Mt. Everest arrive at base camp between March & April. They spend a few weeks at base camp, acclimatizing to the altitude, taking short day trips, getting to know their companions and, I assume, learning tips and tricks for the dangerous climb ahead.  I can't imagine traversing the … Continue reading Tips & Tricks-Recovering from Narcissistic Abuse

Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Often the most dangerous part of climbing Mt Everest is the descent. By the time the climber begins her descent she is exhausted yet exhilarated. This is a dangerous combination. On the one hand the climber feels invincible. On the other hand, she is really too tired and overwhelmed with emotion to make rational choices. … Continue reading Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Impenetrable Boundaries

Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist.  This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were.  I know - seems mighty innocuous, right?  … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries

The Art of Diminishment

I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment.  It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations.   I came up with creative  design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment