The Narcissistic Mother

  How easy it is to forget how bad things were once we're on our way to recovery.  I did just that - forgot that while I've come to love my mother, she will never be an empathetic person.  It happened this weekend. My brother has not spoken to either parent for over 3 years … Continue reading The Narcissistic Mother

Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0

  I wrote Sex & the Covert Narc four years ago, and it continues to be my most often read entry.  I decided it was time to update my thoughts in regards to sex. If you read my 1st blog you know that sex was one of the triggers my ex used.  When I was … Continue reading Sex & the Covert Narcissist 2.0

Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k

This is for one of my BFF's, who is taking the initial steps towards divorcing her narc.   HANG IN THERE!   Remember when I brought enough alcohol for 3 of us to the ball field, then drank it all myself and your son had to drive me home? Remember me crying when he stopped … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist – Ultimate Cluster***k

Words and Narcissistic Abuse

I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse.  My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language.  I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process.  She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse

Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist

I have a good friend with whom I share many of my inner most thoughts, pretty or not.  One of these thoughts was the idea that I wanted to "win" my divorce.  I've decided (hopefully) that this is a very human, not at all unusual thought, especially among those who have been abused. It was … Continue reading Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist

Long Term Impact of Narcissist

I had a very difficult winter.  If you read my blog regularly you might have noticed I stopped writing.  I was struggling with a lingering virus (remember-if you are the victim of a narcissist your health is compromised), but that was not the whole story. I am increasingly aware of the long term impact of … Continue reading Long Term Impact of Narcissist