Triggers, Dissociation and Grounding

This link landed in my mailbox, and I think it is a great source as we head into the holiday weekend.  Happy Reading and have a great weekend!   https://mailchi.mp/36a88487e26f/we-need-to-talk-about-triggers-emotional-flashbacks-dissociation?e=d8e3e8aaee  

The Final Years of an Aging Narcissist

I hope I don't burn in hell for writing this...... I had an uncle who lived about 1.5 hours away from me.  He was a flamboyant narcissist.  He and his wife would come to my town every month or so, sit at my kitchen table and rattle on, telling me the same stories of their … Continue reading The Final Years of an Aging Narcissist

Karma-A Narcissists’ Best Friend

Note:  If we are friends/relatives in real life, this is the one and only time I will discuss this subject.   Today, Mother's Day, two of my three sons took me out to eat.  The third hasn't spoken to me in 1 year, 355 days, ever since his dad took him in when I tried to … Continue reading Karma-A Narcissists’ Best Friend

Transitions

Yoga is often an allegory for life.  Such is the case for me right now. After my cast came off , I  graduated to a sling type contraption.  I was finally able to put weight on my foot and, after about three weeks, it was feeling really good.  I decided it was time to head … Continue reading Transitions

Drama Feeds Narcissists

If you have children, you are familiar with the difficulty of getting them to do chores.  You start calmly explaining what they need to do, they respond "sure", then wander off and turn on the TV.   You wait a few minutes, convinced that they are mulling over the project and intend to get to it … Continue reading Drama Feeds Narcissists

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

This phrase describes my life more frequently as I age.  The most recent example happened this morning on FB. I've been trying to raise awareness about ovarian cancer (ovca).  Last night I wrote a post about the CA125 blood test and pelvic ultrasound.  These are usually the 1st 2 tests done to diagnose ovca.  In … Continue reading No Good Deed Goes Unpunished

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

I have struggled with my bosses.  According to my therapist, I am expecting people who have consistently demonstrated that they don't have my back, to have my back.  An old pattern of mine,  and the definition of crazy! This weekend was my Ovarian Cancer walk.  The walk is held by a foundation I support all … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder Than Words

Die with Compassion

I spent today with my Aunt, who is the Executrix of her brother's estate.  She drove 2.5 hours to get to his attorney's office.  We then went to the courthouse to get the papers required to access his accounts.  From there we were off to his 1st bank, then the 2nd.  At the 1st bank, … Continue reading Die with Compassion

Cheating Narcissist

Funny story...... My ex recently changed his job.  He told our son that he was doing it because he wouldn't have to work weekends, and would have every other Friday off.  Lo and behold, he's now working every Friday & every weekend. My son told me this when I asked how he gets to work … Continue reading Cheating Narcissist

Anxiety

I've been experiencing increasing anxiety lately and today I sat down and gave some serious thought to why.   I realize it is all tied to my taxes........sort of. Tomorrow I have to go to my ex's/our accountants office, , to ask for the signed K-1 and Cost Basis forms for my taxes.  The accountant has … Continue reading Anxiety