Start Here

Often I am so overwhelmed with pain, confusion and fear that I make no progress.  I see no end to the pain caused by my covert narcissist; I see no future in which I can be happy and whole.  It is usually during these weeks that I somehow find a new resource - a website, … Continue reading Start Here

Parenting after Abuse

I've been Netflixing the show Parenthood.  I started watching because I no longer have cable, there was nothing on the main stations, and I love Lauren Graham from Gilmore Girls.    Halfway through the 1st episode I was hooked.  If I'm not writing, taking care of my home/kids or doing yoga/therapy/meditation, I'm watching Parenthood.  For … Continue reading Parenting after Abuse

Crisis or Long Haul: Which is Worse?

It is easy to get through a crisis in the beginning.  In the beginning, everyone gathers round and holds you up.   Your family drops everything to be at your side, your friends check in on you every day, your children are on their best behavior.  You are surrounded by love, and you come to … Continue reading Crisis or Long Haul: Which is Worse?

Instead of Breaking

The glassblower knows: while in the heat of beginning,  any shape is possible. Once hardened, the only way to change is to break. The Book of Awakening,  Mark Nepo That is the opening passage for February 19.  I am much further along in the book (started reading it daily last April) so I'm not even sure … Continue reading Instead of Breaking