Boundaries are fairly new to me. I can count on 1 hand the number of times I've set them in recent years. They are: When I let my ex know I wouldn't allow him to cheat on me anymore. When I let my children know that human emotions, good and bad, are normal, and we … Continue reading Boundaries Are Self-Compassion
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I’m Just So Hurt
It has been 1 year, 8 months & 10 days since my ex asked for a divorce, swearing there wasn't another woman. It's been 1 year, 8 months & 15 days since I found proof of the other woman. It's been 1 year, 9 months and 12 days since he admitted, in writing, that there … Continue reading I’m Just So Hurt
Empath Fatigue- A Real Thing!
Hip, hip hooray!! I am not lazy, anti-social, or depressed. My exhaustion is real. It comes from my ability to feel what those around me are feeling, pretty much all of the time. It creates what I can only describe as a noise in my mind that sucks all the energy from my body and … Continue reading Empath Fatigue- A Real Thing!
Codependency or Self-Love Deficit Disorder?
In case you haven't heard of him, Ross Rosenberg is an online guru who tackles the issues of "codependency" in relation to those in a relationship with a narcissist. He has numerous youtube videos, as well as a book called The Human Magnet Syndrome. The idea that empaths are particularly preyed upon by narcissists … Continue reading Codependency or Self-Love Deficit Disorder?
Saying Goodbye To My Inner Julie
I spend a lot of time wondering how I missed it. How did I miss that the man I married didn’t love me, I wasn’t his soul mate, he didn’t like all of the same things I liked. He chose me for what I brought to the table. I was chosen to be a Nanny, … Continue reading Saying Goodbye To My Inner Julie
Mind or Body? Connection in Yoga
Having already divulged my age I feel comfortable revealing that I was in college & graduate school in the early 1980’s, studying psychology. I think it was the Star Wars movies, with the introduction of “The Force”, the knowledge that we only use 10% of our brain, and the plethora of studies using biofeedback, that … Continue reading Mind or Body? Connection in Yoga
Inner Mean Girl versus Inner Nice Girl
One night I was watching tv with my 13 year old, and he was admiring his feet. He said “my toes look like little people, don’t they? They are like plump, juicy little people”. And they actually do! I was jealous that he could like his feet at age 13. At 13 I hated my … Continue reading Inner Mean Girl versus Inner Nice Girl
Old Me Versus New Me
Pre versus Post Cancer I have often heard “cancer changed everything”. I thought this was just one of those cliché’s we all hear, but is clearly an exaggeration. I’ve been dealing with chronic, debilitating illness for 19 years, so how could cancer change my perspective of my life? Yet it did. My life is … Continue reading Old Me Versus New Me
Wading Through My Marshes
This is how I plan to wade through the marshes I have been stuck in. In the center are the reeds that make up my marshes. Each one has a person's name, an event or an "issue" I need to deal with. I'll choose a reed each day for my mediation practice. If I feel … Continue reading Wading Through My Marshes
Groomed but Escaped 