I didn't understand the power of words until I started recovering from narcissistic abuse. My therapist started dissecting my language, and slowly I learned how toxic the narc (and other disordered people) are in their use of language. I had put this issue aside until a co-worker started going through the separation/divorce process. She started … Continue reading Words and Narcissistic Abuse
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What I Meant to Do…..
In the weeks leading up to Christmas I told my children I was making cheese steak egg rolls & other picky foods for Christmas dinner. They loved the idea. They were especially excited for the cheese steak egg rolls, and they talked about it every time we saw each other in the weeks leading … Continue reading What I Meant to Do…..
Parents Say the Darnedest Things
Parenthood brings many surprises. In addition to the fact that you can go days at a time without sleep and those D cup boobs aren't as fun as you thought they'd be, you find yourself engaged in activities you never knew existed. Between my 3 biological sons and 1 stepson, I've spent time marveling (& … Continue reading Parents Say the Darnedest Things
The Narcissist and Words
Two weekends ago my son was with his narcissistic father. When my son came home he told me he had not worked either of the 2 shifts he'd been scheduled for at his job. Needless to say he was subsequently fired. Today he started a new job. He is training tonight and tomorrow, and … Continue reading The Narcissist and Words
I Saw My Father Cry
My father is a stern man. As a child I feared him. On the few occasions I felt softness from him, I was too startled to embrace the moment. I'd never seen my father cry. He didn't cry when he buried his parents and two of his sisters, he didn't cry at any of our … Continue reading I Saw My Father Cry
Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse
As I enter my fourth year of recovery from narcissistic abuse, I find myself exhausted and bitter because of the layers of damage I have to peel away. I thought I was in a really good place because I'd been feeling really good about myself. One nagging issue though, had me wondering how well I … Continue reading Self Compassion After Narcissistic Abuse
Life After the Narcissist
I dreamed of a family and wall to wall carpeting as a child. Wall to wall carpeting was relatively new, and many of my friends had it. We had oriental rugs and hard wood, and our house was cold. My friends had families that loved each other. They looked forward to seeing each other, they … Continue reading Life After the Narcissist
Parenting with a Narcissist. Hahahaha!
Yes, I'm laughing. Every once in a while I forget who I'm "parenting" with. In those moments, I waste my time sending him emails regarding the issues I'm dealing with. Most of the time I'm aware, as I'm writing, that he will not assist. Sometimes though, I slip and think maybe.....maybe this time he'll help … Continue reading Parenting with a Narcissist. Hahahaha!
Alimony & The Narcissist
I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
Begin Again – Without Judgement
ser·en·dip·i·ty ˌserənˈdipədē/ noun the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way This is the state of my life. It seems like every time I turn around something new is happening that is beneficial and unforeseen. This morning was a great example. My son's GF just accepted a job with … Continue reading Begin Again – Without Judgement
Groomed but Escaped 