The term Gaslighting appears often these days. I recently read an article titled "Employers Gaslight Employees to Return to Office". The title left me with a knot in my gut. As we recover from Covid shutdowns, employers are anxious to have employees return to the office, but gaslighting them? Clearly this was written by someone … Continue reading Gaslighting
Turn Your Town Teal
#teamtealsix #cancersucks #ovariancancer #sandyrollman #randomactsofteal #tealisthenewpink Purpose What do you do when the shit is all cleaned up? The divorce is final, your body and soul have healed, you're settled into your new home, your new tribe is established? When it's all over, something new sets in. I would describe it as boredom, but it … Continue reading Turn Your Town Teal
Funny story...... My ex recently changed his job. He told our son that he was doing it because he wouldn't have to work weekends, and would have every other Friday off. Lo and behold, he's now working every Friday & every weekend. My son told me this when I asked how he gets to work … Continue reading Cheating Narcissist
I Know I Look Good
At the age of 35, shortly after giving birth to my second son, I rolled in to my "journey" of disability. I strapped on my roller blades, something I'd done a thousand times before, but, before I'd pushed off from my car, lost my breath. This was my first full blown asthma attack, and … Continue reading I Know I Look Good
When Time Stands Still
I will never forget the moment time stopped. It was 4:30 on a Monday afternoon. It was hot, early June. I was deep in thought as I walked my dog. I was thinking about how to get my 11 year old fed and to his baseball game. I was worried he wouldn't get a hit, … Continue reading When Time Stands Still
Boundaries Enrich Life
If you are mired in the clutches of a narcissist you probably have no idea what boundaries are, let alone how to use them. I am a newbie to boundaries so my information is limited, but I am an expert on a lack of boundaries and the end result. Boundaries, if you don't know, are … Continue reading Boundaries Enrich Life
I’m Moving On!!!!
What a week! In my wildest dreams I could not have envisioned the week I've had. Three Huge Things Happened. I'll explain them in reverse. The 3rd thing happened today. Today I had another divorce hearing. I assumed it would amount to nothing, especially when my attorney called me at 9AM to tell me … Continue reading I’m Moving On!!!!
I know....don't get your hopes up. Tomorrow is a hearing in front of a "Master" regarding distribution of property. This is how a contentious divorce works in PA. If the parties are not amenable to binding arbitration, the process is broken into 3 parts: support, custody and equitable distribution. On the surface this seems … Continue reading What If?
Balls to the Wall
As I write I realize I use phrases all of the time, yet I'm unsure what they mean. I know how and when to use them, but not why. So it was that, when I decided to tell my attorney "let's go balls to the wall" that I felt I had to look up the … Continue reading Balls to the Wall
Why I Stayed with My Covert Narcissist
Human Doormat Syndrome I suffer from Human Doormat Syndrome (HDS). I'm thinking of starting a recovery program for fellow sufferers. Like AA, we could come together in a circle, take turns saying "Hi. I'm MurphyCee and I am a Human Doormat". Then we could share our stories of how we've willingly allowed others to … Continue reading Why I Stayed with My Covert Narcissist