I have a good friend with whom I share many of my inner most thoughts, pretty or not. One of these thoughts was the idea that I wanted to "win" my divorce. I've decided (hopefully) that this is a very human, not at all unusual thought, especially among those who have been abused. It was … Continue reading Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist
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Lies, Misrepresentation, and General Run Around
I am on medicare, and I have a number of health conditions, each requiring brand name medications. I pay $83.90/month for additional prescription coverage. I won't go into the details of medicare, except to say that when they have paid a certain amount, you enter what they call the "coverage gap". At this point you … Continue reading Lies, Misrepresentation, and General Run Around
The Narcissist and Words
Two weekends ago my son was with his narcissistic father. When my son came home he told me he had not worked either of the 2 shifts he'd been scheduled for at his job. Needless to say he was subsequently fired. Today he started a new job. He is training tonight and tomorrow, and … Continue reading The Narcissist and Words
When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
I think it's called Karma? Background: The support my ex was stipulated to pay was increased, substantially, on 2/1 The amount he actually paid did not go up. At all. His response, when I asked him about it, was "that's between the state and my employer. I have nothing to do with it" I spent … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
After 2 1/2 years of this divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain. After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath. I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
I am cursed with the belief that when dealing with an adult, I'm being told the truth. I would think that by now I'd be over that, having been repeatedly lied to by my spouse, but no, I still take adults' words at face value. Given this, I believed my attorney when he expressed outrage … Continue reading Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
Taxes & Divorce
While we've been separated for close to 2 years, my ex and I are not close to being divorced. We own a business together, so our finances are not transparent, making divorce very complicated. I intended to file taxes single this year. My original intent was to make sure my son received the maximum amount … Continue reading Taxes & Divorce
Lies Don’t Work Here Anymore
I've been looking into private schools for my 14 year old, who is struggling academically. Last night my eldest started chiding me for this. He said "the problem is that we just aren't as smart as you think we are. We are like dad - we don't think much. We are simple people". My first … Continue reading Lies Don’t Work Here Anymore
Groomed but Escaped 