Funny story...... My ex recently changed his job. He told our son that he was doing it because he wouldn't have to work weekends, and would have every other Friday off. Lo and behold, he's now working every Friday & every weekend. My son told me this when I asked how he gets to work … Continue reading Cheating Narcissist
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Breaking up With A Narcissist
Not Your Normal BreakUp Most people assume they understand the depths of any issue you have, and can't wait to tell you how to fix it. For example, I have insomnia. There are a number of reasons for it, but chief among them is an adrenaline based inhaler I use in the morning and at … Continue reading Breaking up With A Narcissist
Loneliness and the Narcissist
The issue of loneliness has been on my mind because I've been cooped up with a broken foot. This past weekend my son was with his dad and, with the exception of my neighbor walking my dog and a friend bringing me groceries, I spent the entire weekend alone. In all the time I was … Continue reading Loneliness and the Narcissist
How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years. Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band. In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job. A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving
I was with my parents the other day. I don't recall the exact conversation, but I remember my mother saying "why on earth would you think that about yourself?" I told her it is hard to shake negative self-thoughts when it is all I've heard for over 20 years. She replied "what could … Continue reading Gaslighting: The Gift that Keeps on Giving
Projection
This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible. The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism, are metaphorical. I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection
The Narcissist & Quicksand
Occasionally I find a subject that fascinates me, and I spend hours learning about it. Mt. Everest and Fairy Circles are two examples. Ask me anything - I probably know the answer. Today I am pondering quicksand. The more I learn about it the more similarities I find between quicksand and the narcissist. You don't … Continue reading The Narcissist & Quicksand
How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Here I sit, on the precipice of a new year, and all I can think is What The Fuck?? How did I get here? How did I become the one people whisper about in the grocery store. “Oh, you remember her, she’s about to lose her house, and I know...it makes no sense. How did … Continue reading How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Time
Never have I been more confused about my feeling of time than the past 3 years. Did that happen yesterday or last year? Did I say that today or last week? It's as if the time chip in my brain is on the fritz. I keep searching for it, going round and round in my … Continue reading Time
Oopps I Did It Again
I Was Narced Again! My children learned from their dad how to talk me down, get their way, mess with my head. I call it "narcing". (Actually, I call it their dad's name + ing but here I'll call it narcing) My two boys who have been with me full time the past 2 years … Continue reading Oopps I Did It Again
Groomed but Escaped 