How many years did I bow to the loudest voice in the room? How many times did I fail to stand up for what I believe? How many times did I sit at the dinner table with a narcissist and, finding myself speechless, let my children hear disturbed messages? Too many. There is a time … Continue reading Me & My Big (Amazing) Mouth
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Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
When I went to settlement, unloading the "home" I'd owned with my ex- narcissist, I found out that I was being held solely responsible for all outstanding fees, interest, and penalties on our mortgage. Having been put through the wringer by Bank of America I was pissed off. I wrote my lawyer explaining everything BoA … Continue reading Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
How To Survive Divorcing a Narcissistic Asshole In the Order You'll Face Them (I say guy, could be girl) If you are like me, you are heading in to a divorce with someone you suspect is a Bad Guy, perhaps a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you: If you suspect it, it is true. … Continue reading Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
Mutually Assured Destruction
This phrase is often used in war movies and political dramas, and is a political strategy adhered to by most countries. It means that if either side continues, both sides are assured devastating consequences. The idea is meant to prevent further aggression. Who knew I would agree to a path that will lead to mutually … Continue reading Mutually Assured Destruction
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
Life Is Not Fair
Remember when we were kids and when we complained "life's not fair"? We'd hear "life's not fair, then you die". Turns out this is not a good thing to say to a child who's mother has cancer. I've said it a few times to my 14 year old, and I finally looked as … Continue reading Life Is Not Fair
Taxes & Divorce
While we've been separated for close to 2 years, my ex and I are not close to being divorced. We own a business together, so our finances are not transparent, making divorce very complicated. I intended to file taxes single this year. My original intent was to make sure my son received the maximum amount … Continue reading Taxes & Divorce
Dating After Divorce
Every once in a while I think about dating. Actually, I think about being in a relationship - not dating. I've never been a dater. I'm a relationship girl. I had 2 long term relationships before my marriage. Before, and in between those relationship I went on as few dates as possible. The only … Continue reading Dating After Divorce
Groomed but Escaped 