I have a good friend with whom I share many of my inner most thoughts, pretty or not. One of these thoughts was the idea that I wanted to "win" my divorce. I've decided (hopefully) that this is a very human, not at all unusual thought, especially among those who have been abused. It was … Continue reading Surviving Divorce from the Narcissist
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Let It Be
What Charlotte Taught Me Meet Charlotte. She's the one with 3 legs. I'm the one with 2 legs. While I might be the one writing this blog, I am only repeating what Charlotte taught me. It might be useful to anyone going through any type of trauma, whether it be an illness, divorce, abuse, a … Continue reading Let It Be
Balance & the Narcissist
Balance has been on my mind lately, primarily because my lack of it keeps launching me down stairs. After 6 weeks laid up with a broken foot, I'm determined to regain my balance. My physical therapist assures me that despite the neuropathy in my feet I can, and will, regain balance. I almost didn't go … Continue reading Balance & the Narcissist
Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
What is the Truth? I've been trying for 3 days to write a blog about Oprah's Golden Globe speech without referencing my ex narc. Alas, it is not meant to be. I am compelled to write about the intersection of my ex narc and Oprah. Quick background - my ex left his 1st wife … Continue reading Oprah & the Covert Narcissist
How Narcissists’ Damage Children
My boss, the one who recently lost her son, was upset yesterday. She told me she didn't know how she was going to handle the upcoming weekend. Her son is a senior in college, and this weekend is Senior Night at the football game. She wasn't too concerned initially, because in high school parents escorted … Continue reading How Narcissists’ Damage Children
Narcissists Seal The Deal
I had lunch with my eldest son yesterday. It turned out to be serendipitous that I asked him to meet me for lunch, because he had something to share with me. His dad, my ex, is having a big party tonight where he intends to propose marriage to his paramour. My son was very nervous … Continue reading Narcissists Seal The Deal
Me & My Big (Amazing) Mouth
How many years did I bow to the loudest voice in the room? How many times did I fail to stand up for what I believe? How many times did I sit at the dinner table with a narcissist and, finding myself speechless, let my children hear disturbed messages? Too many. There is a time … Continue reading Me & My Big (Amazing) Mouth
Feelings – Go Away Please!
If you read my blog you know that my bosses son died 2 weeks ago. It was a tragic loss, yet my boss and her family handled it beautifully. She and her husband gave their son's Eulogy, and it was touching, poignant, funny and inspiring. And it triggered the shit out of me. (does this … Continue reading Feelings – Go Away Please!
Change
Change I watch the ripples change their size but never leave the stream of warm impermanence and so the days float through my eyes but still the days seem the same. David Bowie August August represents the end of carefree days and overfilled late summer nights, the end of freedom. As a child, August was … Continue reading Change
A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral
This is probably really bad for my karma but....... For Mother's day my eldest son and his GF took me to brunch at a restaurant in the city. The restaurant didn't take reservations, so we wandered around while waiting for our table. The section of the city is the current up and coming area, … Continue reading A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral
Groomed but Escaped 