Never have I been more confused about my feeling of time than the past 3 years. Did that happen yesterday or last year? Did I say that today or last week? It's as if the time chip in my brain is on the fritz. I keep searching for it, going round and round in my … Continue reading Time
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Balls to the Wall
As I write I realize I use phrases all of the time, yet I'm unsure what they mean. I know how and when to use them, but not why. So it was that, when I decided to tell my attorney "let's go balls to the wall" that I felt I had to look up the … Continue reading Balls to the Wall
Mutually Assured Destruction
This phrase is often used in war movies and political dramas, and is a political strategy adhered to by most countries. It means that if either side continues, both sides are assured devastating consequences. The idea is meant to prevent further aggression. Who knew I would agree to a path that will lead to mutually … Continue reading Mutually Assured Destruction
Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
I am cursed with the belief that when dealing with an adult, I'm being told the truth. I would think that by now I'd be over that, having been repeatedly lied to by my spouse, but no, I still take adults' words at face value. Given this, I believed my attorney when he expressed outrage … Continue reading Divorce Attorneys: The Truth
Support Is Everything
I learned a valuable lesson this summer while surfing. I learned that without the proper support, I am doomed to failure, but with the proper support I am destined to succeed. Here's what happened. I've always wanted to surf. Last summer, as I sat on the beach watching my kids surf, I decided it … Continue reading Support Is Everything
What Was I Thinking?
When my spouse 1st left me and gave me his proposal for support and division of property, I was horrified. It was so clear that his intent was to walk away and wash his hands of responsibility for me and his children. It was such a horrible offer, I didn't even consider it. How stupid … Continue reading What Was I Thinking?
Do I Owe You?
I have a plethora of family and friends who have been stepping up to help me over the past 3 years. I am grateful, but nervous. In my world, when someone helps you, you owe them. Some of the people who have stepped up, when I've expressed concern that I can never pay them back, … Continue reading Do I Owe You?
Are We Our Stuff?
I've spent the last 2 years selling, giving away and trashing most of my "stuff", and it feels great! I love how empty my house looks, I love the freedom I have now that I don't have to take care of so many things, and I love feeling unencumbered. I am still very tied down, … Continue reading Are We Our Stuff?
Let’s Talk FaceBook
A few background facts: I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx). My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
Groomed but Escaped 