My boss, the one who recently lost her son, was upset yesterday. She told me she didn't know how she was going to handle the upcoming weekend. Her son is a senior in college, and this weekend is Senior Night at the football game. She wasn't too concerned initially, because in high school parents escorted … Continue reading How Narcissists’ Damage Children
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Funny Thing Happened on my Way to My New Life……
http://www.sionsurfcamp.com In 11 days I leave for the longest vacation I've had since my honeymoon in 1991. Actually, this trip is longer than my honeymoon because, despite my objections, my ex started a new job 4 months before our wedding, so he was limited in vacation days. We were gone for 10 days, 4 of … Continue reading Funny Thing Happened on my Way to My New Life……
Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
When I went to settlement, unloading the "home" I'd owned with my ex- narcissist, I found out that I was being held solely responsible for all outstanding fees, interest, and penalties on our mortgage. Having been put through the wringer by Bank of America I was pissed off. I wrote my lawyer explaining everything BoA … Continue reading Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us
Change
Change I watch the ripples change their size but never leave the stream of warm impermanence and so the days float through my eyes but still the days seem the same. David Bowie August August represents the end of carefree days and overfilled late summer nights, the end of freedom. As a child, August was … Continue reading Change
A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral
This is probably really bad for my karma but....... For Mother's day my eldest son and his GF took me to brunch at a restaurant in the city. The restaurant didn't take reservations, so we wandered around while waiting for our table. The section of the city is the current up and coming area, … Continue reading A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral
Alimony & The Narcissist
I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
The Crime of Emotions
I was just told by my father "you always do this - you don't stop and think things through, then later you say 'oh, I wish I had done this differently'". Why did he say this? Because he didn't like a decision I've made. I asked him for some examples, and he started to … Continue reading The Crime of Emotions
Shit on a Plate
Today I was offered Shit on a Plate. We got an offer on our house yesterday. Another lowball offer. My ex replied "only if it's an As-Is sale" to which the realtor replied Yes, it is AS-IS. Today, when I went to sign the papers, I noticed there were inspection contingencies - a lot of … Continue reading Shit on a Plate
Love
passive aggressive relationships Last week I ran into the spouse of one of my BFF's. They are currently separated, at her request. The only impediment to their divorce is her inability to afford a lawyer. He wants them to get back together, and he took the opportunity to plead his case. He has 3 reasons … Continue reading Love
Keeper of the Family
Over the last 3 years I've prepared to downsize. Significantly. I'm currently in a 3500+ square foot single home, and I've been preparing to move to a much smaller townhouse. I've gone through every square inch of the house and thrown out or sold things I didn't need, and packed up our family memories in … Continue reading Keeper of the Family
Groomed but Escaped 