The Battle of the Shame Angel versus the Self-Love Angel begins.
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Christmas + Divorce
I am approaching my 2nd Christmas post separation. Last year my family all gathered round, and kept me busy during the times my kids were with their dad. This year I am on my own, both during my time with them, and during the times they are with their dad and his GF. He's … Continue reading Christmas + Divorce
My 1st Thanksgiving & Gratitude
Yesterday was the 1st time I've hosted a holiday dinner alone. Before my marriage I lived alone and accepted others' invites, so no stress there. Once married, my ex, the Chef, did the cooking for holiday meals. Last year, the first round of holidays post separation, my parents and cousins bailed me out, my … Continue reading My 1st Thanksgiving & Gratitude
Codependency or Self-Love Deficit Disorder?
In case you haven't heard of him, Ross Rosenberg is an online guru who tackles the issues of "codependency" in relation to those in a relationship with a narcissist. He has numerous youtube videos, as well as a book called The Human Magnet Syndrome. The idea that empaths are particularly preyed upon by narcissists … Continue reading Codependency or Self-Love Deficit Disorder?
Can Yoga Give Me Self-Love?
Self-love is not my strong suit. In fact, I’d go as far as to say that self-love is practically non-existent for me. I know that everyone has issues with various parts of themselves, like the stick thin woman who thinks her thighs are fat, or the over-weight but otherwise happy woman who hates her hair, … Continue reading Can Yoga Give Me Self-Love?
Co Dependency + Narcissist
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lh3Pq2JOSIU&feature=em-subs_digest-g This is a great description of how we get involved with, and stay with, the narcissist.
Cancer Changed Me. Get Used To It.
A friend of mine is “battling” breast cancer, and I spent some time with her today, running errands, having lunch, chatting. She asked me if I am different after cancer. I told her a few ways I’ve changed, and when I got home I checked my blog to see if I’ve written about this. I … Continue reading Cancer Changed Me. Get Used To It.
Vomitus Invitationus
My mother always says that I make friends where ever I go, and this is true. I have no trouble meeting new people, and I can become fast friends with some. In fact, I become such close friends with some that I do what I call “vomiting invitations”. I have been known to invite virtual … Continue reading Vomitus Invitationus
What Did You Say?
My youngest son is studying Spanish, and complaining about it every step of the way. I don’t blame him. I think some people are hard wired to learn a second language and others not. He & I are in the not category. Helping him learn Spanish though, has led me to ponder English. I’ve heard … Continue reading What Did You Say?
Where Does all the Anger Go?
I am So, So Mad. I'm mad at my ex for reeling me in, taking me down, then leaving me. I'm mad at the stupid women who engaged my ex in his narcissistic need for constant esteem boosts, believing it was my fault our marriage sucked. I'm so mad at myself for believing it was … Continue reading Where Does all the Anger Go?
Groomed but Escaped 