As far as I can tell, there are 2 types of boys in the world: those that put the seat down and those who don't. My boys put the seat down, except in their own bathroom, when their girlfriends are not around. I take no credit for this. In fact, I think it is an … Continue reading Toilet Seats & The Narcissist
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Good Choice, Bad Choice?
I am a huge fan of Brene Brown. If you aren't familiar, google Brene Brown Ted talks to get an idea of who she is and what her message is. I'm currently reading her most recent book, Rising Strong, which is resonating with me even more then her others; all of which have changed me! … Continue reading Good Choice, Bad Choice?
Petrification: Can I Break Out?
I've been trying to put into words what is happening to me right now, and I've been complete unsuccessful. Last week I realized that I feel dirty. My skin feels sullied, and I want to tear it off. At first I thought it was just my skin, and that if I could cure that … Continue reading Petrification: Can I Break Out?
Please Don’t Ask Me That
I had the opportunity today to work with a friend of mine who is a widow. We both have boys around the same age and in the same school district, so we share many of the same acquaintances, as well as the status of “single mom”. We talk about a variety of issues related to … Continue reading Please Don’t Ask Me That
Boundaries Are Self-Compassion
Boundaries are fairly new to me. I can count on 1 hand the number of times I've set them in recent years. They are: When I let my ex know I wouldn't allow him to cheat on me anymore. When I let my children know that human emotions, good and bad, are normal, and we … Continue reading Boundaries Are Self-Compassion
Volunteer or Martyr?
I have spent alot of time volunteering, because I coached two of my boys in a program called Odyssey of the Mind (OM). Google it if you've never heard of it; it's an amazing experience for students. There were times that I was resentful of what was required of me. Meetings were held at my … Continue reading Volunteer or Martyr?
I’m Just So Hurt
It has been 1 year, 8 months & 10 days since my ex asked for a divorce, swearing there wasn't another woman. It's been 1 year, 8 months & 15 days since I found proof of the other woman. It's been 1 year, 9 months and 12 days since he admitted, in writing, that there … Continue reading I’m Just So Hurt
Fear Of Flying
What creates a fear of flying? I was never afraid to fly, until the day I suddenly was. For years I've required copious amounts of Valium and alcohol to fly. One flight, years ago, was due to leave around 7AM. By 6:30 I had taken 2 Xanax and had a drink; yes, at … Continue reading Fear Of Flying
Freedom From Waiting
I have a bowl of "Angel Cards": cards with inspirational words. The premise is that we all have angels watching over us, and they will guide our hand to the card we need that day. I don't know if that part is true or not, but I do know that whatever word I pull … Continue reading Freedom From Waiting
Alone or Lonely?
I have always enjoyed being alone. From as far back as I can remember I was just as content playing alone as I was playing with my friends. As a matter of fact, I cherished my time alone. I have many solitary activities that I enjoy, so being alone is never a problem for me. … Continue reading Alone or Lonely?
Groomed but Escaped 