One of the reasons we get hooked by the covert narc is that they take every Public Opportunity to be the Good Guy. Everyone raves about what a great guy they are, because everything they do is in public. This week is the perfect example, and thank God, I see it for what it is. … Continue reading Narcissists Love A Good Show!
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My AHA! Moment
If happened this morning! All of the writing, reading, talking, meditating, ruminating, examining and yoga all came together this morning and I GOT IT! It has taken a long time to get here, and I know I am still a work in progress, but I finally feel like it's a journey worth taking. I want … Continue reading My AHA! Moment
Prince + Yoga
Do Prince and yoga seem like a good combination to you? Not to me. Never the less, I found myself signing up for a pop-up Prince Music Yoga class. I spent the entire day feeling confident I wouldn't actually go. I haven't listened to Prince since his '85 Purple Rain tour. I loved that album. … Continue reading Prince + Yoga
Persistent or Tenacious?
I was once asked in a job interview if I considered myself persistent or tenacious. Having no idea what tenacious meant I answered persistent. When I got home and looked up the definition of tenacious, I realized I am usually tenacious; to a fault. Yesterday I was trying to print transfers for shirts and nothing … Continue reading Persistent or Tenacious?
The Magic of the Covert Narcissist
It's like magic, what the covert narcissist (CN) does to your head. Today is a great example of how it works. I started my day feeling pretty good. I felt strong, capable, not bad looking for my age, and, believe it or not, Happy. I went to yoga and saw people who I feel … Continue reading The Magic of the Covert Narcissist
Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism
I have 23 years of a relationship with a covert narcissist (CN) to dissect, and the question I keep asking my therapist is "are you sure?" How can you be sure he really is a CN, and I'm not just re-writing our story? What proof do you have that I didn't deserve to be treated … Continue reading Beginnings & Endings: Clues to Narcissism
Start Here
Often I am so overwhelmed with pain, confusion and fear that I make no progress. I see no end to the pain caused by my covert narcissist; I see no future in which I can be happy and whole. It is usually during these weeks that I somehow find a new resource - a website, … Continue reading Start Here
Runaway Mom
Being a mom is a relentless, thankless job. I am happy I have children, I always love them, I am often very proud of them, and sometimes I even like them. But Damn. I left my career when my 3rd son was 6 months old. I tried going back to work, but I was just … Continue reading Runaway Mom
I Deserved So Much Better
It's taken a long time to get here, but I finally get it - I replaced my dysfunctional birth family with a dysfunctional husband, and together, we created Dysfunction Central. I've known for a long time that we had problems; hence this blog. Truthfully though, I was more than happy to take the blame for … Continue reading I Deserved So Much Better
Parenting after Abuse
I've been Netflixing the show Parenthood. I started watching because I no longer have cable, there was nothing on the main stations, and I love Lauren Graham from Gilmore Girls. Halfway through the 1st episode I was hooked. If I'm not writing, taking care of my home/kids or doing yoga/therapy/meditation, I'm watching Parenthood. For … Continue reading Parenting after Abuse
Groomed but Escaped 