Occasionally I find a subject that fascinates me, and I spend hours learning about it. Mt. Everest and Fairy Circles are two examples. Ask me anything - I probably know the answer. Today I am pondering quicksand. The more I learn about it the more similarities I find between quicksand and the narcissist. You don't … Continue reading The Narcissist & Quicksand
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The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why. The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral. I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist
The Covert Narc’s Son
I kicked out my middle son today. Actually, I gave him several months to work things out, to start helping himself and to stop treating me like shit. When nothing changed, I gave him a month's notice to go. I should be wracked with guilt, but I'm not. I'm relieved. I know it's possible I'll … Continue reading The Covert Narc’s Son
Flashbacks
I've been mired in a flashback because of issues in my home. I stumbled cross the guru of flashbacks, Pete Walker. His site is pete-walker.com and I highly recommend it. As a relative newby to all of this, I needed a source that really breaks down what a flashback is, why it occurs, how it … Continue reading Flashbacks
Future Events Appearing Real
FEAR Future Events Appearing Real When my ex first left I was terrified. He'd spent over 20 years putting me down in a way I didn't understand. When he left I felt helpless and doomed. As has been the case in my adult years, my parents showed up. My father, who I've never … Continue reading Future Events Appearing Real
Instead of Breaking
The glassblower knows: while in the heat of beginning, any shape is possible. Once hardened, the only way to change is to break. The Book of Awakening, Mark Nepo That is the opening passage for February 19. I am much further along in the book (started reading it daily last April) so I'm not even sure … Continue reading Instead of Breaking
Groomed but Escaped 