Cheaters & Liars

Strange story -  in the last episode of the Connor's  Jackie figured out that her boyfriend was cheating on her, and she kicked him to the curb.  Watching this took me down memory lane. Everything he says to her is something my ex said to me.  Things like: if you accuse me of cheating you're … Continue reading Cheaters & Liars

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It’s All About The Guest List

Just a quick thought for the holidays.......   I used to get super stressed about Christmas.  I wanted so badly for it to be perfect that by the time the day was there I was sick.  Every single year.    And every year my (now) ex would look at me, a puzzled look on his … Continue reading It’s All About The Guest List

Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Often the most dangerous part of climbing Mt Everest is the descent. By the time the climber begins her descent she is exhausted yet exhilarated. This is a dangerous combination. On the one hand the climber feels invincible. On the other hand, she is really too tired and overwhelmed with emotion to make rational choices. … Continue reading Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Impenetrable Boundaries

Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist.  This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were.  I know - seems mighty innocuous, right?  … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries

The Art of Diminishment

I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment.  It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations.   I came up with creative  design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment