Finding Myself in Silence

I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago.  I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip.    I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence

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Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Often the most dangerous part of climbing Mt Everest is the descent. By the time the climber begins her descent she is exhausted yet exhilarated. This is a dangerous combination. On the one hand the climber feels invincible. On the other hand, she is really too tired and overwhelmed with emotion to make rational choices. … Continue reading Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse

Impenetrable Boundaries

Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist.  This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were.  I know - seems mighty innocuous, right?  … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries

The Art of Diminishment

I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment.  It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations.   I came up with creative  design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment

Balance & the Narcissist

Balance has been on my mind lately, primarily because my lack of it keeps launching me down stairs.  After 6 weeks laid up with a broken foot, I'm determined to regain my balance.  My physical therapist assures me that despite the neuropathy in my feet I can, and will, regain balance. I almost didn't go … Continue reading Balance & the Narcissist