I returned from a solo trip to Mexico 5 days ago. I went to be part of the Dia De Los Muertos celebrations (day of the dead). It turned out that this celebration was the least impactful part of the trip. I've been struggling to put into words what I discovered, but how do … Continue reading Finding Myself in Silence
Often the most dangerous part of climbing Mt Everest is the descent. By the time the climber begins her descent she is exhausted yet exhilarated. This is a dangerous combination. On the one hand the climber feels invincible. On the other hand, she is really too tired and overwhelmed with emotion to make rational choices. … Continue reading Moving on After Narcissistic Abuse
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, there are concrete steps you can take to escape. Comparing this endeavor to climbing Mt. Everest, here is a list of steps to take to begin recovery. Using these steps to establish a new base camp for your life.
If you'd like to watch how life with a narcissists goes, watch the movie Mother! It is difficult to watch because it is so crazy, but it a great representation of how, and why, someone can be trapped by a narcissist. Happy Labor Day weekend!
Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist. This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were. I know - seems mighty innocuous, right? … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries
Two weekends ago my son was with his narcissistic father. When my son came home he told me he had not worked either of the 2 shifts he'd been scheduled for at his job. Needless to say he was subsequently fired. Today he started a new job. He is training tonight and tomorrow, and … Continue reading The Narcissist and Words
I am painting my townhouse, and the act of painting has plunged me back in time, forcing me to recall how my ex-narcissist began his campaign of diminishment. It began with our home renovations. I planned all the renovations. I came up with creative design ideas to maximize space, I chose all colors, light fixtures … Continue reading The Art of Diminishment
I've been experiencing increasing anxiety lately and today I sat down and gave some serious thought to why. I realize it is all tied to my taxes........sort of. Tomorrow I have to go to my ex's/our accountants office, , to ask for the signed K-1 and Cost Basis forms for my taxes. The accountant has … Continue reading Anxiety
Balance has been on my mind lately, primarily because my lack of it keeps launching me down stairs. After 6 weeks laid up with a broken foot, I'm determined to regain my balance. My physical therapist assures me that despite the neuropathy in my feet I can, and will, regain balance. I almost didn't go … Continue reading Balance & the Narcissist
Every once in a while I write the 1st draft of a blog, and it goes missing. Such is the case with today's blog. I am currently in the throes of trying to complete my taxes, part of which are dependent on assistance from my passive aggressive ex narcissist. An hour ago I saved a … Continue reading Blog to Come…..