Bear with me - I am going to think this out as I write it. The narcissist thinks only of himself. If you are reading this you can't really grasp this. You are so busy thinking of everyone around you it makes no sense that the narc could care less. The only way I've come … Continue reading Maneuvering Around the Narcissist
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Thankyou, May I Have Another?
When I was young thin mint girl scout cookies were a big deal. During the cookie season, one night each week our dessert would be thin mints. On the thin mint nights here is what happened. Dad, sitting at the head of the table, would open a sleeve of cookies. He would give himself 3 … Continue reading Thankyou, May I Have Another?
How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
(As always, substitute her if you are a guy) I thought it might be fun for some of us regulars to share how our ex introduced his adulterer to our kids. I'll go first. I'll tell it from my point of view and his point of view (his in red. Like Scarlet Letter Red) ME: … Continue reading How Did Your Ex Introduce His Paramour to Your Children?
Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
How To Survive Divorcing a Narcissistic Asshole In the Order You'll Face Them (I say guy, could be girl) If you are like me, you are heading in to a divorce with someone you suspect is a Bad Guy, perhaps a narcissist. Trust me when I tell you: If you suspect it, it is true. … Continue reading Actions To Take When Divorcing A Narcissist
The Gift of Me
Tonight, after a particularly contentious legal day, I sit writing. I am surrounded by the candles and Christmas decorations I've accumulated through the years, and wondering what they mean. This is my 3rd Christmas separated, and it is the hardest, and I've been pondering this. I'm sitting at my dining room table with the … Continue reading The Gift of Me
My Son is a Prop
My spouse insists on having my son every Sunday & Monday. Unless my son doesn't want to do what the dad wants to do - then he "can't" take him. Two weeks ago the dad made arrangements for my son's basketball coach to pick him up, take him to his game, then drop him … Continue reading My Son is a Prop
Time
Never have I been more confused about my feeling of time than the past 3 years. Did that happen yesterday or last year? Did I say that today or last week? It's as if the time chip in my brain is on the fritz. I keep searching for it, going round and round in my … Continue reading Time
Let’s Talk FaceBook
A few background facts: I own a restaurant with my soon to be ex (stbx). My savings and good credit partially funded it, I helped open it, I did the books for years, and I showed up when it was understaffed and waited tables. My stbx cheated on me repeatedly during out marriage. He was … Continue reading Let’s Talk FaceBook
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
If I Was Gone
If I was gone, people would notice, a funeral well attended Tears would be shed, regrets told in earnest a house would be sold, possessions disposed of not that it matters, no possession defines me My family would gather, tell stories of my life some would be lovely, others recalled to clarify I was a … Continue reading If I Was Gone
Groomed but Escaped 