I am on the last of 4 teenage boys. I learned early on that boys require a special sort of patience, because they bring with them a level of hostility unrivaled by the angriest of all creatures. This morning was a perfect example. As I was dropping my 18 year old off at school … Continue reading Snarling Teenage Boys
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The Narcissistic Father
I thought I would feel vindicated when my children finally figured out their narcissistic father. Instead, I just feel sad. The younger two have known for a while who and what their dad is. Not much has changed for them. My eldest is the one I've worried about. My ex always spent the most … Continue reading The Narcissistic Father
Rage
(see update at bottom) I grew up with people subject to rage, and then married a man who did the same thing. Here's the thing about rage: it's all about control. Rage is not an expression of anger, it is a show put on by a disordered person, designed to flip the script; to … Continue reading Rage
Anxiety
I've been experiencing increasing anxiety lately and today I sat down and gave some serious thought to why. I realize it is all tied to my taxes........sort of. Tomorrow I have to go to my ex's/our accountants office, , to ask for the signed K-1 and Cost Basis forms for my taxes. The accountant has … Continue reading Anxiety
The Power of Negativity
A lovely woman from my ovarian cancer group died last week. To be clear, she did not pass, depart or gain her teal wings - she Died. Yesterday was the service, and a group of us drove up together. It was short and simple. There was no viewing, no hymns, no priest or minister, and … Continue reading The Power of Negativity
Breaking up With A Narcissist
Not Your Normal BreakUp Most people assume they understand the depths of any issue you have, and can't wait to tell you how to fix it. For example, I have insomnia. There are a number of reasons for it, but chief among them is an adrenaline based inhaler I use in the morning and at … Continue reading Breaking up With A Narcissist
The Narc Show
Food for the Narcissist There is a "gentleman" who is relatively new to my yoga studio. He came in with a bang, and has put on a show ever since. He enters the door only when no one else is coming, and he makes sure everyone knows he's arrived. His body language screams "look … Continue reading The Narc Show
Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables! During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate". Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you. All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Steer Into the Skid
You will know this is a true story because who would/could make this up. My day today - My drivers license expires in 3 days, so I set this morning aside to renew it. I drove 20 miles further than the DMV close to me, because there is never a line. I walked in … Continue reading Steer Into the Skid
Feelings – Go Away Please!
If you read my blog you know that my bosses son died 2 weeks ago. It was a tragic loss, yet my boss and her family handled it beautifully. She and her husband gave their son's Eulogy, and it was touching, poignant, funny and inspiring. And it triggered the shit out of me. (does this … Continue reading Feelings – Go Away Please!
Groomed but Escaped 