Divorcing A Narcissist I have just come to a divorce settlement with my covert narc (CN). It took almost 3 years, and it was hell. As I get over the constant fear I realize how bad it really was. The most important thing I've learned is this: This was not my fault. I was … Continue reading It Is Not Your Fault
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Cancer Saved My Life
I received the transcript from my spouse's deposition today, and I started reading it. I was floored on the 1st page, when he spoke about how our divorce came about. I remember the moment as if it happened yesterday. It is forever seared into my brain. It was 9:20AM. I was in the kitchen preparing … Continue reading Cancer Saved My Life
How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
Here I sit, on the precipice of a new year, and all I can think is What The Fuck?? How did I get here? How did I become the one people whisper about in the grocery store. “Oh, you remember her, she’s about to lose her house, and I know...it makes no sense. How did … Continue reading How to Lose Your Home To A Narcissist
The Gift of Me
Tonight, after a particularly contentious legal day, I sit writing. I am surrounded by the candles and Christmas decorations I've accumulated through the years, and wondering what they mean. This is my 3rd Christmas separated, and it is the hardest, and I've been pondering this. I'm sitting at my dining room table with the … Continue reading The Gift of Me
My Son is a Prop
My spouse insists on having my son every Sunday & Monday. Unless my son doesn't want to do what the dad wants to do - then he "can't" take him. Two weeks ago the dad made arrangements for my son's basketball coach to pick him up, take him to his game, then drop him … Continue reading My Son is a Prop
The Joy of A Deposition
I wasn't there, but if the way my attorney describes it is accurate, we made a narcissist sweat his balls off today!! &, while it is probably bad Karma to gloat about this, after everything he's put me through over the past 25 years I sort of feel like I'm entitled to a bit … Continue reading The Joy of A Deposition
Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
After 2 1/2 years of this divorce process you'd think I would be over the pain. After all that has happened, during our marriage and during the divorce, I am still amazed when I feel like I've taken a dagger to my heart. I know my spouse is a psychopath. I know he messed … Continue reading Divorcing a Covert Narcissist Really Hurts
Divorce, Foreclosure & the USPS
What, you ask, is this picture? It is the 11 pieces of mail, mailed on the same day. (In case that is not clear, each one is dated November 30, 2016, by the bank that sent them.) Half were sent certified, the other half regular mail. All were sent by our mortgage lender. So many issues....where … Continue reading Divorce, Foreclosure & the USPS
I Love My Job
How goofy is this: I Love the part time job I've been given at my yoga studio. I love having somewhere to be. I love people smiling at me, and saying Thank You. I love the owners saying I'm doing a good job, and a client saying "I'm so happy I got you on … Continue reading I Love My Job
Adultary & Bed Bugs
If you are in a relationship with an adulterer, there is the chance you will have to deal with bed bugs at some point. I had the joy of this while going through chemotherapy. When I first started seeing streaks of blood on my sheets I assumed it was because of my surgery. By the … Continue reading Adultary & Bed Bugs
Groomed but Escaped 