I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
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I Know I Look Good
At the age of 35, shortly after giving birth to my second son, I rolled in to my "journey" of disability. I strapped on my roller blades, something I'd done a thousand times before, but, before I'd pushed off from my car, lost my breath. This was my first full blown asthma attack, and … Continue reading I Know I Look Good
Strange Yogi Sayings
I am often puzzled (my nice way of saying WTF??) at what is said at my yoga studio. Phrases often seem obvious, ridiculous or simply crazy. This weekend I came to understand 2 such phrases, one of which I'll write about here. I spent the entire weekend doing a "Sing Yourself Awake" workshop with Suzanne … Continue reading Strange Yogi Sayings
Jack Nicholson Face
Forget Resting Bitch Face (RBF) - I have Jack Nicholson Face (JNF) I showed up at work this morning with my JNF. The owner, i.e. my Employer/Boss, sent an email yesterday requesting we begin a new project. A great project. A valid, very necessary project. Except the people she planned to pull to complete the … Continue reading Jack Nicholson Face
Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
“It hurts to look at the clouds, but it also helps, like most things that cause pain.” ― Matthew Quick, The Silver Linings Playbook When my middle son was a toddler he would ask me questions. A lot of questions. Questions I couldn't answer. He didn't ask the usual unanswerable questions, like "why is … Continue reading Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
Projection
This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible. The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism, are metaphorical. I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection
The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
My ex, a covert narcissist, took a low paying job rather than work for more in our business. He did this just as it was time to start support negotiations. He claims he is selling our business (a restaurant) because he has to work too many hours, and he's getting too old - he needs … Continue reading The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
Passive Aggressive Bullshit
Yes, this is a rant. I am so damned tired of passive aggressive bullshit I want to ...... I don't know what I want to do. I want to run away. I want to not wake up in the morning. I want to never read email, or take care of my home or my … Continue reading Passive Aggressive Bullshit
Narcissists Feed On Shame
Shame is a new concept for me. I lived it, but I never understood it. From as early as I can remember I've felt a deep sense of shame, a belief that I was inherently such a bad human I deserved nothing. As a child I was called "practically perfect". My family thought this was … Continue reading Narcissists Feed On Shame
I’m Moving On!!!!
What a week! In my wildest dreams I could not have envisioned the week I've had. Three Huge Things Happened. I'll explain them in reverse. The 3rd thing happened today. Today I had another divorce hearing. I assumed it would amount to nothing, especially when my attorney called me at 9AM to tell me … Continue reading I’m Moving On!!!!
Groomed but Escaped 