Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

  Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  This is easy if you are completely breaking ties with someone you can walk away from.  But what about the people in your life you can't escape? Two summers ago I had a major altercation with my … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

Going gray is considered the best, perhaps only way, to deal with narcissists and other toxic people.  I thought I had it down with my ex, but I did not.  I wasn't going gray, I was simply avoiding him.  Since we live in the same community, and share numerous friends and associates, avoiding him is … Continue reading Going Gray with Narcissists/Toxic People

How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years.  Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band.  In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job.  A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person

Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us

When I went to settlement, unloading the "home" I'd owned with my ex- narcissist, I found out that I was being held solely responsible for all outstanding fees, interest, and penalties on our mortgage.  Having been put through the wringer by Bank of America I was pissed off.  I wrote my lawyer  explaining everything BoA … Continue reading Why It’s so Easy for the Narc to Screw Us

Projection

This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible.  The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism,  are metaphorical.  I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection