After the first few years of chronic illnesses my family started to say to me "do you think it's stress?". I was flummoxed as to how to answer. Of course it was stress. I was a mother of 3 young children, I co-owned a restaurant with my spouse, he was never at home, and when … Continue reading Narcissists, Stress & Health
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Funny Thing Happened on my Way to My New Life……
http://www.sionsurfcamp.com In 11 days I leave for the longest vacation I've had since my honeymoon in 1991. Actually, this trip is longer than my honeymoon because, despite my objections, my ex started a new job 4 months before our wedding, so he was limited in vacation days. We were gone for 10 days, 4 of … Continue reading Funny Thing Happened on my Way to My New Life……
Change
Change I watch the ripples change their size but never leave the stream of warm impermanence and so the days float through my eyes but still the days seem the same. David Bowie August August represents the end of carefree days and overfilled late summer nights, the end of freedom. As a child, August was … Continue reading Change
Alimony & The Narcissist
I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
Love
passive aggressive relationships Last week I ran into the spouse of one of my BFF's. They are currently separated, at her request. The only impediment to their divorce is her inability to afford a lawyer. He wants them to get back together, and he took the opportunity to plead his case. He has 3 reasons … Continue reading Love
I Know I Look Good
At the age of 35, shortly after giving birth to my second son, I rolled in to my "journey" of disability. I strapped on my roller blades, something I'd done a thousand times before, but, before I'd pushed off from my car, lost my breath. This was my first full blown asthma attack, and … Continue reading I Know I Look Good
Strange Yogi Sayings
I am often puzzled (my nice way of saying WTF??) at what is said at my yoga studio. Phrases often seem obvious, ridiculous or simply crazy. This weekend I came to understand 2 such phrases, one of which I'll write about here. I spent the entire weekend doing a "Sing Yourself Awake" workshop with Suzanne … Continue reading Strange Yogi Sayings
Jack Nicholson Face
Forget Resting Bitch Face (RBF) - I have Jack Nicholson Face (JNF) I showed up at work this morning with my JNF. The owner, i.e. my Employer/Boss, sent an email yesterday requesting we begin a new project. A great project. A valid, very necessary project. Except the people she planned to pull to complete the … Continue reading Jack Nicholson Face
Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
“It hurts to look at the clouds, but it also helps, like most things that cause pain.” ― Matthew Quick, The Silver Linings Playbook When my middle son was a toddler he would ask me questions. A lot of questions. Questions I couldn't answer. He didn't ask the usual unanswerable questions, like "why is … Continue reading Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
Projection
This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible. The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism, are metaphorical. I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection
Groomed but Escaped 