My children (3 boys, 26, 23 & 17) and I were trying to figure out a weekend to go visit their grandparents. The older 2 have full time jobs, Monday through Friday. The task seemed as simple as picking a weekend to make the 2 hour drive, but it was complicated by my middle son. … Continue reading The Sociable Introvert
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Die with Compassion
I spent today with my Aunt, who is the Executrix of her brother's estate. She drove 2.5 hours to get to his attorney's office. We then went to the courthouse to get the papers required to access his accounts. From there we were off to his 1st bank, then the 2nd. At the 1st bank, … Continue reading Die with Compassion
Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables! During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate". Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you. All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists
Manipulation or Management
I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
Delusion, Meet Reality
I am surrounded by well meaning family & friends, all of whom want the best for me. I am also part of a yoga community, which wants the best for everyone, and I belong to cancer and divorce support groups on FB. All of these sources together have thrust me into a world of delusion, … Continue reading Delusion, Meet Reality
Scapegoats
a person or group made to bear the blame for others or to suffer in their place. 'Thrown to the Wolves" Boundaries. Scapegoats. Abuse. How do I put these words together in a way that rings true to me? How do I get past the idea that I'm "bashing" family, "attacking people who did … Continue reading Scapegoats
Groomed but Escaped 