Alimony & The Narcissist

I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband.   I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce".    They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist

The Crime of Emotions

I was just told by my father "you always do this - you don't stop and think things through, then later you say 'oh, I wish I had done this differently'".    Why did he say this?  Because he didn't like a decision I've made. I asked him for some examples, and he started to … Continue reading The Crime of Emotions

The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist

During this 3rd year of my separation I've become increasingly reclusive, and I haven't been sure why.  The other night I figured it out. I was talking to a friend who had just scarfed down 2 bagels and pound of M & M's and was in a shame spiral.  I'm the ideal person to call … Continue reading The Humiliation of Divorcing A Narcissist

Breaking Up With My Oncologist

I've decided to ditch my oncologist (gyn/oc = gynecological oncologist). The protocol for high grade serous epithelial stage 3B  ovarian cancer is 5 years of follow-ups.  During those 5 year Dr's are supposed to see you every 3 months, draw a CA125 every 3 months and, if there is a rise in the CA 125 … Continue reading Breaking Up With My Oncologist