Impenetrable Boundaries

Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist.  This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were.  I know - seems mighty innocuous, right?  … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries

It Is Not Your Fault

Divorcing A Narcissist I have just come to a divorce settlement with my covert narc (CN).  It took almost 3 years, and it was hell.  As I get over the constant fear I realize how bad it really was.  The most important thing I've learned is this:   This was not my fault. I was … Continue reading It Is Not Your Fault

The Covert Narc’s Son

I kicked out my middle son today.  Actually, I gave him several months to work things out, to start helping himself and to stop treating me like shit.  When nothing changed, I gave him a month's notice to go.  I should be wracked with guilt, but I'm not.  I'm relieved.  I know it's possible I'll … Continue reading The Covert Narc’s Son