Non-Negotiables and Narcissists

Narcissists Thrive on Non-negotiables!   During the love bombing phase the narcissist learns what your non-negotiables are and emulates them, leading you to believe you've met your "soulmate".  Even if you don't actually believe in soulmates, you will by the time the narcissist is done love bombing you.  All of your non-negotiables, even ones you … Continue reading Non-Negotiables and Narcissists

Alimony & The Narcissist

I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband.   I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce".    They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist

The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon

The Worse thing about being lied to is knowing you weren't worth the truth. I recently read these words, by an author I don't know, and I've been thinking about them.  I imagine in  a healthy relationship this might be true.  I've not been in a healthy relationship, so I don't know.  Do healthy couples … Continue reading The Lie Sundae: The Narc’s Weapon