This is probably really bad for my karma but....... For Mother's day my eldest son and his GF took me to brunch at a restaurant in the city. The restaurant didn't take reservations, so we wandered around while waiting for our table. The section of the city is the current up and coming area, … Continue reading A Dress for My Ex’s Funeral
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The Crime of Emotions
I was just told by my father "you always do this - you don't stop and think things through, then later you say 'oh, I wish I had done this differently'". Why did he say this? Because he didn't like a decision I've made. I asked him for some examples, and he started to … Continue reading The Crime of Emotions
Manipulation or Management
I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
Strange Yogi Sayings
I am often puzzled (my nice way of saying WTF??) at what is said at my yoga studio. Phrases often seem obvious, ridiculous or simply crazy. This weekend I came to understand 2 such phrases, one of which I'll write about here. I spent the entire weekend doing a "Sing Yourself Awake" workshop with Suzanne … Continue reading Strange Yogi Sayings
Keeper of the Family
Over the last 3 years I've prepared to downsize. Significantly. I'm currently in a 3500+ square foot single home, and I've been preparing to move to a much smaller townhouse. I've gone through every square inch of the house and thrown out or sold things I didn't need, and packed up our family memories in … Continue reading Keeper of the Family
13 Projects
Yes - obviously plagiarized, but I think with merit. I recently decided to part ways with my realtor. I interviewed 3 new realtors, and 2 of the 3 told me I needed to undo one of my favorite features of my house: the wallpapered risers on the staircase. This will be my final project, because … Continue reading 13 Projects
Panic
I made it through Easter with a smile and grace on the outside. On the inside, I can barely breathe. While I've said this to no one, I honestly don't know how much more I can handle. I feel like I dug a huge pit in the sand and voluntarily jumped in. I then … Continue reading Panic
Projection
This is embarrassing to admit - even with a MA degree in Psychology I did not understand the power of projection. I loved studying Psychology but honestly, I approached it the way Catholics approach the bible. The ideas/stories in the bible, according to Catholicism, are metaphorical. I don't think I've ever heard a Catholic claim … Continue reading Projection
The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
My ex, a covert narcissist, took a low paying job rather than work for more in our business. He did this just as it was time to start support negotiations. He claims he is selling our business (a restaurant) because he has to work too many hours, and he's getting too old - he needs … Continue reading The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Recovering from Narcissist abuse is a long term endeavor. I have developed a step program (will share later) and I still revisit some of the earlier steps. I often have to reassure myself that I am not imaging my abuse. I've been pondering lately why this is. What is it about the narcissist abuse … Continue reading Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Groomed but Escaped 