In the US we are currently witnessing a narcissistic, powerful, wealthy man lose his status. Many have wondered if his young wife will divorce him. My children were laughing about how well off she'd be if she did divorce him. Having divorced a narcissist, I'm very aware of the price we pay, and the actual … Continue reading Divorcing a Narcissist: The Aftermath
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The Narcissistic Father
I thought I would feel vindicated when my children finally figured out their narcissistic father. Instead, I just feel sad. The younger two have known for a while who and what their dad is. Not much has changed for them. My eldest is the one I've worried about. My ex always spent the most … Continue reading The Narcissistic Father
The Narcissist-Four Years Later
REVENGE People say that the best revenge after divorce is to live your best life. While it's not perfect, I am definitely living the best life I've ever lived. I still struggle with my health (life long battle thanks to the steady barrage of gas lighting from my ex narc), but aside from that, … Continue reading The Narcissist-Four Years Later
What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones
If you were to ask anyone who knows me what my super power is, they would all say the same thing: Losing My Cellphone. If this was a sport I'd be captain, and handily lead my team to victory. I lose my phone at least once a day. When people ask me what I … Continue reading What I Meant to Do – Cell Phones
Escaping Narcissistic Abuse – the Mt. Everest of Recovery
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship, there are concrete steps you can take to escape. Comparing this endeavor to climbing Mt. Everest, here is a list of steps to take to begin recovery. Using these steps to establish a new base camp for your life.
The Tractor
Him He pulled up to the house in his Cadillac. He parked it on the street and checked the carport to make sure she wasn’t home. He caressed the car as he left it, filled with pride that it was his, reveling in the fact that while she would have fought against its purchase, she … Continue reading The Tractor
Drama Feeds Narcissists
If you have children, you are familiar with the difficulty of getting them to do chores. You start calmly explaining what they need to do, they respond "sure", then wander off and turn on the TV. You wait a few minutes, convinced that they are mulling over the project and intend to get to it … Continue reading Drama Feeds Narcissists
Acting, Lies & the Narcissist
My youngest son drove me to a Dr's appointment tonight. It's often illuminating spending time with captive children, and tonight did not disappoint. My son has recently started working as a cashier in the market down the street from our home. While waiting for my prescription, he launched into a tirade about how much … Continue reading Acting, Lies & the Narcissist
How Narcissists’ Damage Children
My boss, the one who recently lost her son, was upset yesterday. She told me she didn't know how she was going to handle the upcoming weekend. Her son is a senior in college, and this weekend is Senior Night at the football game. She wasn't too concerned initially, because in high school parents escorted … Continue reading How Narcissists’ Damage Children
Actions Speak Louder than Words
My oldest son is 25. I mention this because he is now the age that represents the amount of time I was with his father. He spent copious amounts of time as a child with his dad, traveling around playing baseball. For him this meant time with his dad, which has influenced his thought process. … Continue reading Actions Speak Louder than Words
Groomed but Escaped 