Every once in a while I find myself re-learning the importance of impenetrable boundaries when dealing with a narcissist. This week was a refresher course. It started on Monday when my ex narc claimed that his* PowerSchool** was blank, could I tell him what our son's grades were. I know - seems mighty innocuous, right? … Continue reading Impenetrable Boundaries
Die with Compassion
I spent today with my Aunt, who is the Executrix of her brother's estate. She drove 2.5 hours to get to his attorney's office. We then went to the courthouse to get the papers required to access his accounts. From there we were off to his 1st bank, then the 2nd. At the 1st bank, … Continue reading Die with Compassion
How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
I was talking to my cousin, and she told me about a group of "friends" she and her husband had enjoyed over the years. Initially they shared a common bond - Marching Band. In case you are unfamiliar, being a Band Parent is practically a full time job. A lack of funds means the parents … Continue reading How to Spot a Narcissist/Toxic Person
Jack Nicholson Face
Forget Resting Bitch Face (RBF) - I have Jack Nicholson Face (JNF) I showed up at work this morning with my JNF. The owner, i.e. my Employer/Boss, sent an email yesterday requesting we begin a new project. A great project. A valid, very necessary project. Except the people she planned to pull to complete the … Continue reading Jack Nicholson Face
Boundaries Enrich Life
If you are mired in the clutches of a narcissist you probably have no idea what boundaries are, let alone how to use them. I am a newbie to boundaries so my information is limited, but I am an expert on a lack of boundaries and the end result. Boundaries, if you don't know, are … Continue reading Boundaries Enrich Life
Is This A Boundary Issue?
My oldest son moved into an apartment with his girlfriend (GF) in September. I adore his GF, but I don't feel well equipped to judge the health of a relationship. My son can be difficult to live with. He, like me, is a bit of a neat freak, and he gets easily upset when he's … Continue reading Is This A Boundary Issue?
Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
The Circus versus the Magician I just spent time with my uncle, a bon-a-fide covert narcissist of the somatic sub-type (obsessed with his looks & physical prowess). I had planned to work on implementing boundaries, but it took little time to realize I was fighting a losing battle. At the end of my time … Continue reading Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
Boundaries are Afoot
Tonight I have the "honor" of hosting my uncle, the King of Overt Narcissists (KOON). He has cancer and is getting a 3rd opinion at a hospital near me, so he is spending the night at my house and I'll take him to his appointment in the morning. I was asked to do this … Continue reading Boundaries are Afoot
Do I Owe You?
I have a plethora of family and friends who have been stepping up to help me over the past 3 years. I am grateful, but nervous. In my world, when someone helps you, you owe them. Some of the people who have stepped up, when I've expressed concern that I can never pay them back, … Continue reading Do I Owe You?
Teachers + Social Media
I have a friend who is taking on our school district. 15 months ago she found out a teacher was snap chatting her 17 year old son. On weekends, at night time, during school hours there are snap chats, usually numbering in the teens. If you are unfamiliar with snap chat, it is an app … Continue reading Teachers + Social Media