My bosses 19 year old son died at 4:33 today. He suffered severe cerebral palsy from birth, and his past 3 years had been particularly cruel. He had 4 major surgeries, each resulting in major complications. Yesterday he suffered cardiac arrest. Today they made the decision to remove the ventilator keeping him alive, and he … Continue reading Anger, Grief & Death
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Who Must Bridge The Divide?
How do I put this into words......... While I am not proud of how I behaved, last weekend I finally lost it with my parents. After spending the past year, hell - my entire life - trying to keep them happy, do the "right" thing, meet their needs, I lost it. I was accused of … Continue reading Who Must Bridge The Divide?
Alimony & The Narcissist
I work with a lovely woman who has been divorced for 7 years from her philandering husband. I know nothing about him except that he called her on a Monday morning and said "I'm moving out, I'm moving in with my secretary and filing for divorce". They had two daughters, one a Senior … Continue reading Alimony & The Narcissist
The Crime of Emotions
I was just told by my father "you always do this - you don't stop and think things through, then later you say 'oh, I wish I had done this differently'". Why did he say this? Because he didn't like a decision I've made. I asked him for some examples, and he started to … Continue reading The Crime of Emotions
Manipulation or Management
I was talking to an acquaintance about issues raising children, like getting them on the bus. She was having trouble with her son, and she had implemented some new rules. She said she wasn't sure if she was manipulating or managing him, and I was struck by this idea. Manipulation, in our society, has a … Continue reading Manipulation or Management
Keeper of the Family
Over the last 3 years I've prepared to downsize. Significantly. I'm currently in a 3500+ square foot single home, and I've been preparing to move to a much smaller townhouse. I've gone through every square inch of the house and thrown out or sold things I didn't need, and packed up our family memories in … Continue reading Keeper of the Family
Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
“It hurts to look at the clouds, but it also helps, like most things that cause pain.” ― Matthew Quick, The Silver Linings Playbook When my middle son was a toddler he would ask me questions. A lot of questions. Questions I couldn't answer. He didn't ask the usual unanswerable questions, like "why is … Continue reading Swimming in a Sea Of Insanity
I Learned Tolerance From A Minority in A Gun Shop
A few bits of business before I start: I don't care who you voted for. This is not an anti-Trump blog I am buying a gun. I hope I don't have to use it, but I plan to be prepared. I, and my son, are taking fire arm safety classes I am afraid of the … Continue reading I Learned Tolerance From A Minority in A Gun Shop
The Perils of Writing
I often find, when having a conversation with someone, lots of other thoughts arise. So it was this morning at my yoga studio. I had been working on a blog about the studio, and I had sent it to the owners to read before I posted it. Several of my yoga blogs have been posted … Continue reading The Perils of Writing
Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
The Circus versus the Magician I just spent time with my uncle, a bon-a-fide covert narcissist of the somatic sub-type (obsessed with his looks & physical prowess). I had planned to work on implementing boundaries, but it took little time to realize I was fighting a losing battle. At the end of my time … Continue reading Overt Versus Covert Narcissist
Groomed but Escaped 