I think it's called Karma? Background: The support my ex was stipulated to pay was increased, substantially, on 2/1 The amount he actually paid did not go up. At all. His response, when I asked him about it, was "that's between the state and my employer. I have nothing to do with it" I spent … Continue reading When Bad Things Happen To Bad People
My ex, a covert narcissist, took a low paying job rather than work for more in our business. He did this just as it was time to start support negotiations. He claims he is selling our business (a restaurant) because he has to work too many hours, and he's getting too old - he needs … Continue reading The Narcissist Never Changes. Get Used to It.
Recovering from Narcissist abuse is a long term endeavor. I have developed a step program (will share later) and I still revisit some of the earlier steps. I often have to reassure myself that I am not imaging my abuse. I've been pondering lately why this is. What is it about the narcissist abuse … Continue reading Narcissists Love Play-Doh
Sometimes I write and write and feel like I've never really gotten to the heart of the matter. This blog is like that. I feel the message I'm trying to deliver, but my words feel inadequate, shallow, frivolous. I'll keep going, but I know that on some level I am blocking the root issue. Maybe … Continue reading Good Luck, Other Woman
I will never forget the moment time stopped. It was 4:30 on a Monday afternoon. It was hot, early June. I was deep in thought as I walked my dog. I was thinking about how to get my 11 year old fed and to his baseball game. I was worried he wouldn't get a hit, … Continue reading When Time Stands Still
Yes, this is a rant. I am so damned tired of passive aggressive bullshit I want to ...... I don't know what I want to do. I want to run away. I want to not wake up in the morning. I want to never read email, or take care of my home or my … Continue reading Passive Aggressive Bullshit
I am a competitive person. I inherited this from my father. Lest he deny this, I'll remind him of balloon volleyball. I had just moved into a new home with my 3 boys, all under the age of 10. The home had a huge room with concrete floors, a few windows and nothing else. My … Continue reading Competitive Yoga, the Soul & Donuts
Things I want to say today It's been a shit day. After a shit night. After another shit day. Here are some apologies, requests, and questions for the world. Mailwoman: I am sorry you can't get to my mailbox. My bad - not yours! I pray you don't stress about the fact that you couldn't … Continue reading Really??
Bear with me - I am going to think this out as I write it. The narcissist thinks only of himself. If you are reading this you can't really grasp this. You are so busy thinking of everyone around you it makes no sense that the narc could care less. The only way I've come … Continue reading Maneuvering Around the Narcissist
My ex and I reached a settlement on 1/25 of this year. As of 2/1 he was supposed to increase the amount of support he's paying. A substantial increase. In return, I'm to pay the mortgage while selling the house. All of which is what I wanted, and all of which is manageable. Except...... His … Continue reading Another Win for the Narcissist