Crisis or Long Haul: Which is Worse?

It is easy to get through a crisis in the beginning.  In the beginning, everyone gathers round and holds you up.   Your family drops everything to be at your side, your friends check in on you every day, your children are on their best behavior.  You are surrounded by love, and you come to … Continue reading Crisis or Long Haul: Which is Worse?

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My Story

  What I Thought Happened I met my narc in 1988. I worked with him for 6 months, during which time I came to see him as a total dick. He treated me and other employees terribly. He was rude, sullen, uncooperative and unavailable, until he needed me for something. Once he realized I could help … Continue reading My Story

Overcoming Parenting with A Narcissist

I chose the word overcoming because I just realized the extent to which I've been marginalized by my ex narc.  Marginalized is also a strong word, and I have included it quite deliberately, because when you read the definition,  "the process whereby someone is pushed to the edge of a group and accorded less importance", … Continue reading Overcoming Parenting with A Narcissist

Instead of Breaking

The glassblower knows: while in the heat of beginning,  any shape is possible. Once hardened, the only way to change is to break. The Book of Awakening,  Mark Nepo That is the opening passage for February 19.  I am much further along in the book (started reading it daily last April) so I'm not even sure … Continue reading Instead of Breaking

My Go-To Sites: Education is the Key

Recovering from narcissistic abuse requires knowledge.  You have to  understand what you were up against, how you got there, why you are so confused, what is real and what is not, and where to go from here.   Some of my favorite resources are:   https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201412/is-your-partner-narcissist-here-are-50-ways-tell http://ladywithatruck.com/the-3-phases-of-a-relationship-with-a-narcisist/ http://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/yourmentalhealth/2015/10/15/recovering-from-narcissistic-abuse-without-validation/ http://relationshipedia.me/ http://www.narcissismaddictionsabuse.com/index.html http://thenarcissisticlife.com/victims-of-npd-relationships-stages-of-recovery/ http://christinehammondcounseling.com/2015/01/13/how-narcissists-use-money-to-abuse/ https://www.psychopathfree.com/content.php?298-Working-Through-Rage-After-Abuse https://www.psychotherapy.net/article/complex-ptsd#section-emotional-neglect:-a-primary-cause-of-complex-ptsd? http://counsellingresource.com/features/2009/02/24/shame-guilt-neurotic-manipulation/Continue reading My Go-To Sites: Education is the Key