Yesterday was the 1st time I've hosted a holiday dinner alone. Before my marriage I lived alone and accepted others' invites, so no stress there. Once married, my ex, the Chef, did the cooking for holiday meals. Last year, the first round of holidays post separation, my parents and cousins bailed me out, my … Continue reading My 1st Thanksgiving & Gratitude
In case you haven't heard of him, Ross Rosenberg is an online guru who tackles the issues of "codependency" in relation to those in a relationship with a narcissist. He has numerous youtube videos, as well as a book called The Human Magnet Syndrome. The idea that empaths are particularly preyed upon by narcissists … Continue reading Codependency or Self-Love Deficit Disorder?
Self-love is not my strong suit. In fact, I’d go as far as to say that self-love is practically non-existent for me. I know that everyone has issues with various parts of themselves, like the stick thin woman who thinks her thighs are fat, or the over-weight but otherwise happy woman who hates her hair, … Continue reading Can Yoga Give Me Self-Love?
When one of my boys says "mom, want my advice about what to do with [insert siblings name]" it invariably leads to a commentary on my failures as a mother. So, when I hear those words, "mom, want my advice" I say NO. Thanks for offering though.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lh3Pq2JOSIU&feature=em-subs_digest-g This is a great description of how we get involved with, and stay with, the narcissist.
A friend of mine is “battling” breast cancer, and I spent some time with her today, running errands, having lunch, chatting. She asked me if I am different after cancer. I told her a few ways I’ve changed, and when I got home I checked my blog to see if I’ve written about this. I … Continue reading Cancer Changed Me. Get Used To It.
My mother always says that I make friends where ever I go, and this is true. I have no trouble meeting new people, and I can become fast friends with some. In fact, I become such close friends with some that I do what I call “vomiting invitations”. I have been known to invite virtual … Continue reading Vomitus Invitationus
I view Dr’s as better than me, in the sense that they are smarter, more motivated, make more money, have more status, look great in white and, in a curious twist, are fairly good looking. (How is that fair, by the way?) On a human level though, which ultimately we all are, I know they … Continue reading Yo Doc – Why You Gotta Be So Rude?
I grew up being told I was like a bull in a china shop. I had trouble reconciling this. I was able to do great things on the balance beam at school, I never seemed to break things in other people’s homes, and I was generally competent when trying new physical endeavors. Most times I … Continue reading A Bull In The China Shop
I try really hard not to act old. I pride myself on not saying “kids these days….”, or “when I was a kid….”, or “the problems with this generation……”. I am a firm believer that while the issues facing “kids” today aren’t the issues I faced, this makes them no less difficult or relevant. I … Continue reading I Need An App To Learn That App